This is a long one...BUT.... It is packed with excellent advice! Even if you arent in the 20-35 age range...I promise there are nuggets here for you too! Even if you arent 20-35 this is awesome advice: Dear Friend, Lately I have been getting a lot of emails from Millennials (those of you between 20 and 35) about the stress and pressure you feel about making major life decisions. Today I want to reassure you that you don’t have to have it all figured out right now – I promise!! Life is a constant journey of exploring answers to questions like “Who am I?” and “What do I want to do with my life?” I was well on track in my twenties to answering those questions. I had a prestigious career, a man I loved who proposed, money, fancy clothes, and so on. When I lost it all at 27 I judged myself as a huge failure. I went from having everything to believing something was wrong with me. But nothing was wrong with me. And nothing is wrong with you either if you feel like you failed at something or like a failure because you haven’t done enough. You’re simply going through a normal rite of passage that you may even call your “quarterlife crisis.” So if you feel confused, like nothing is really “right” but nothing feels “wrong” either – don’t worry, you’re NORMAL. The time of our life when we are supposed to be “having the time of our life” can be overwhelming and downright scary at times. It can also be a time of great discovery, freedom and exhilaration if you are willing to remove expectations from others, society and yourself to figure everything out on a certain timeline or according to a certain checklist. You don’t have to figure out everything but you do have to do something. Your life purpose is not going to just hit you like a lighting bolt while you’re sitting in Starbucks surfing Facebook. An amazing partner is not going to walk into your life if you are not putting yourself out there or wasting time in dead-end relationships. If you want to live a life of meaning and make a meaningful impact, it’s time to redefine your version of “everything.” It is also time to stop putting so much pressure on yourself and open up to all the possibility that is present in your life. To give you a nudge in the right direction, I want to share a few “what I wish I knew then that I know now” tips with you: 1..You will fail. Allow yourself to make mistakes. You will learn so much valuable insight and information from failure so stop playing it so safe. Not risking is risky (and boring!). 2. Dont try to be perfect. Its not only exhausting, its impossible. 3. Your parents may want you to do things the way they did them or the way they think you should do them. Follow your own path even if they dont agree (and dont worry, theyll get over it). 4. There is huge value in oh no! moments. The things that dont go according to plan are often the biggest blessings in your life -- sometimes, it just takes time to clearly understand what the blessing is. 5. Do things to stand out, but dont just do them to stand out. 6. Live your life according to your deepest values -- dont make hot, rich and famous your goal, because youll never be fulfilled. 7. Youth does not make you invincible, but it does give you the amazing opportunity to create habits for healthy living NOW. 8. SLEEP. Eat green foods and ditch processed stuff (if you do not know or cant pronounce the ingredients, dont eat it!) 9. Enjoy your body and stop punishing it with your criticism and yo-yo dieting. Breathe, meditate, say affirmations and exercise. 10. Ladies, get off a timeline! Let go of the pressure of your biological clock because stress has an adverse effect on your fertility. 11. Chemistry is necessary, but not sufficient in romantic relationships. Make a list of your values and top five non-negotiables and DO NOT SETTLE. 12. Friendships matter -- they contribute significantly to your health and longevity!! Ditch toxic friendships and put the effort into friends who inspire and support who you are and where you are headed. 13. Dont date someones potential. When someone tells you or shows you who they are the first time, believe them. 14. ALL relationships teach us valuable things about ourselves and are a catalyst for growth. Even if they end, they are a success if you are willing to look at what you learned about yourself. 15. When it comes to break-ups, let go! No ex-stalking or obsessing. Move forward and do not shut down your heart. Getting hurt in love is something we all experience. 16. There is no one soul mate. You will probably have multiple romantic relationships and the MOST important relationship you have is the one with YOURSELF. No one can complete you other than YOU. 17. The trick to personal finance is budgeting and SAVING, but be limitless in your money mindset. Learn ways to increase and appreciate your abundance right now. Abundance does not just come in form of money. 18. Answering the question, What do I want to do with my life is more often a process of elimination rather than a lighting bolt of inspiration. Be willing to have different jobs and explore multiple paths. 19. Have patience because opportunity and success come in real time. Overnight success is not possible and you dont have to love your job to be happy at it! 20. The workplace doesnt tolerate slackers -- dont be one!! Be more than your job description. 21. Entrepreneurs: make sure the business you are starting is solving a specific problem. The most important ingredients to being an entrepreneur are initiative and discipline. 22. Burnout is not a badge of honor. Dont try to do it all, focus on the 5% youre great at (your zone of genius) and delegate the rest! 23. Develop your personal brand -- remember your passion makes you unique!! 24. Write down what you want to be known for. Make a list of your professional and character values and never sell out. 25. Your thoughts are creating your reality, so you are either attracting things to you or repelling them from you. Be mindful of your thoughts! 26. Stop comparing yourself to everyone else and being so hard on yourself. Dont use Facebook as a torture device. Quiet your Inner Mean Girl or Inner Mean Dude and be your own best friend. Seriously, be nice to yourself!!! 27. Youre a grown up now, it is time to lovingly cut the umbilical chord with your parents and live YOUR life. 28. Learn the language of your intuition and how to recognize when your heart is speaking to you and then how to respond once it does. 29. Find a cause that you have an emotional tie to, educate yourself on the mission and get involved. Service is a key ingredient to happiness. 30. Adopt a what can I give versus what can I get mindset. That is how you truly make an impact on the world. I hope this advice helps you relax in the knowing you don’t have to figure everything out and also ignites your sense of exploration, initiative, and dedication to do something. In order to create a life of meaning, you have to live it! Love, Christine Hassler
Posted on: Sat, 26 Apr 2014 20:23:10 +0000
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