This post might be rather long, but if you continue to read it Ill need your comments at the end of this post. I have NEVER had the best relationship with my family. From my mother to my brothers, from my uncle on to my aunt, from cousin to cousin. I have been labeled as what can only be described as a black sheep. This is in part because of the choices Ive made in my past like drug use to my criminal record. and the other part by how I was raised. I love the idea of family unity but I never really saw it after my grand-fathers death when I was younger. No one says Happy Birthday or sends well wishes when sick. Its sad really. Which if you look into my posts into last year I never said Happy Thanksgiving or Merry Christmas (at least I dont think I did), this is because these times are USUALLY spent with family.... I had none but my immediate. Did they bother to call, send a card or post on my wall. No. So ho do I carry on with out the idea of family support? I look into my childrens eyes and I try to instill the fat that no matter what they do or done.. They will and will always be welcome in my home, Ill talk to them when they call, and do whatever I can within reason, Now Im not saying my family hasnt done these things but they havent given me the option if I needed it. Ill put to you this way... I havent seen a family member in a matter of years when I managed to find them (I was homeless and coming down from using) they took it upon themselves to get me dinner and a motel room. At the time, I really appreciated (and still do) what they did but while I never thought about it until now.... why wouldnt they take my to their home? It was Christmas after all and I had to spend it in the motel... alone. I understand it was a burden but it still hurt being shut out. Ive called this family member a few times since then to inform them of the progress Ive made since then. Like getting my G.E.D. and starting a family but havent spoken in about 6 years. In part because of this family members son and the way communication seems to slip by us. Maybe they feel Im out to use them, trust me this isnt the case. Its not like Im asking for their childs Social Security number to claim on my taxes when I never see, call or send them gifts. I want family to be just that.... F - A -M - I - L - Y. Show concern when hurt or feelings when necessary (Like Happy Birthday or Happy New Years etc.). Call just to chat. Or get together just to go to the park to allow our children to play. All simple requests really. But not in my family.... No, we like to criticize (without knowing each other) posts or life. Often spreading more hate or depressing thoughts about the other. However the way I see it is different then theirs and while my honesty is usually straight forward I generally mean no harm. As I know when to be a nice guy and when to be a asshole. After all this I was shocked to see a family member, I met only once and have since become Facebook friends, comment on something they didnt like and referred to me as offensive and immature. After this I had suggested they hide the post and they wont see it again. How did they respond? By threatening me by blocking. Now is this how family is supposed to act? Or do we accept other family members for whom they are? I accept them for who they are. Why cant I be accepted for who I am? Now Ill ask for your input. What can I say or do? Please comment below (family or not, youre right)
Posted on: Wed, 29 Jan 2014 13:41:25 +0000
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