Today was weird. Scotts been sick for a few days so Im totally missing my side kick and there was a lot of drama for our mid-week dinner all together last night. I have not really been able to shake it so Im writing instead.... Those nights are honestly one of the most challenging parts of our parenting schedule. I love talking to his kids and hugging them and checking in on their week and all the kids truly love seeing each other. They are constantly asking when its coming and how much time until they need to leave again.....therein lies the trouble itself. Its just enough time for re-entry and transition time into our family of 8 and then they leave to go back to their Moms. It’s so much different than our 4 night stretches together. Its really kind of an awkward night and there seems to always be trouble because of it. Last night was no different. Right after dinner, I heard a pile up starting at the corner of thats my chair and get off of me and sure enough...it was a downright shoving/hitting match by the time I got to them. It was horrible and I have not seen one like it for a long time. Physically hurting anyone is simply not allowed here. Ever. Period. Its taken quite seriously. We never saw the kerfuffle begin so Scott & I spent the next 30 minutes privately interviewing the victims and bystanders for a fair conclusion on what the sentence should be and who it belonged to. By the time we finished and gathered the kids into the courtroom for sentencing, to our sheer delight (and much needed parental exhaustion) they all decided to turn it into a big ol apology session and a bunch of I should haves.” So here is what I think I know now reflecting on it all (besides how much it helps me to write when Im all worked up about something): 1. If you ever find yourself co-parenting, work hard to have an overnight visit mid-week, instead of a few hours of a check in. They are challenging for everyone. 2. When you dont see the trouble begin in a sibling argument, take the time to let everyone express their side of the story. Alone. It really re-regulates them all pretty well, they get time to feel heard and once you bring them back together they are SO over listening to your democracy they will probably just apologize to each other and be done with it. So thats what I know today. I think I will head to bed early and start fresh tomorrow, blending better bit by bit. ;)
Posted on: Fri, 23 Jan 2015 03:03:47 +0000
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