Trust: We expend so much energy, watching and calculating, trying to predict, reading signals in people... Ready for anything to change suddenly... Preparing to be disappointed. So much energy spent. We talk about trust as something you build, as if its a structure or a thing but in that building there seems to be something about letting go,and what it affords us is a luxury and it allows us to stop thinking, to stop worrying that someone wont catch us if we fall, to stop constantly scanning for inconsistencies, to stop wondering how other people act when theyre not in our presence. It allows us to relax a part of our minds, then we can focus on whats in front of us... and thats why its such a tragedy when its broken. A betrayal can make you think of all the other betrayals that are waiting for you, things that you havent thought of, people you rely on... and you can feel yourself tightening up, bracing, and in the worst cases, you might resolve to trust no one. But... that doesnt really work. Trust is your relationship to the unknown, what you cant control and you cant control everything... and its not all or none. Its a slow and steady practice of learning about the capacity of the world... and its worth it to keep trying... and its not easy. Alia says that trust is like a fork, not one way but many ways... physical, emotional, maybe something else. I almost imagine trust as these invisible hands that we stretch out into the world looking for someone to hold onto as we walk into the unknown future. So who do you trust and how can you grow it? -
Posted on: Thu, 11 Dec 2014 17:45:25 +0000
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