WOMEN; WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW WHEN YOU ASSIST A MAN FINANCIALLY or OTHERWISE When you help/assist a man please make sure you do so with all sincerity of purpose and not to gain commitment in return but if commitment is what you want why not spell it out sit and talk about it like every deal money is involved, tell him you are doing so to get commitment in return, for it will not be seen as him betraying you if you assume that he should know you assisting him financially means you want commitment, it doesnt always work that way as help is always believed to be out of freewill. Come to think of it does it mean God cannot use you to change a mans life? Does just because hes a man means you as a woman cant help uplift him in life. What if your purpose of coming together in life is just for you to assist and after that go your separate ways Cant destiny make it so? When did helping/assisting someone become you ending up with them in marriage? Just because you dated and during the course of your dating he became successful doesnt mean you should take the Glory/credit if you take the Glory/credit what then should be left to God. IN ORDER NOT TO FEEL CHEATED AFTER ASSISTING A MAN Make your intentions known sit him down and tell him the reason why you are assisting him is because you want commitment from his part doing so will leave him with a choice of whether to accept the offer or not and when he does accept the offer out of sincerity then we can hold him accountable If he derails,but that does not mean he cant derail if your purpose in his life is just to assist him. Who told you he will be the perfect man for you just because you contributed immensely to his life?. Everything you do for a man who isnt your husband should be done out of freewill and openness and should be done because you have the means to do so and not to gain commitment. Assisting a man financially is not what you do to gain commitment,commitment is a mutual thing and mush be respected as such. Theres nothing wrong in assisting a man what is wrong is the method and expectations you attach to it. Because you are not being sincere or because you do so out of selfish interest is why you get hurt when the man you help dont settle with you. TO AVOID BETRAYAL WHEN YOU ASSIST DO SO BECAUSE YOU HAVE THE MEANS TO DO SO AND IF YOU CANT SAY IT TO HIS FACE THAT COMMITMENT IS WHAT YOU WANT IN RETURN IF THATS ACTUALLY WHAT YOU WANT then dont go further assisting him. #claptires
Posted on: Tue, 21 Jan 2014 22:38:17 +0000
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