Yesterday, I spoke to the ladies. Today, gentlemen, this one’s for you. And as with yesterday’s post, this isn’t directed towards anyone specific, but if the shoe fits, lace that bad boy up and rock it! I see a lot of memes and posts up and down my timeline where guys would rather put themselves in harm’s way than to let their significant other near their phones, social media accounts, etc. I know that some of my friends are joking but the majority of them are deadly serious. I ask why and most of the responses allude to cheating or inappropriate relationships and contact with other females. Some cite a need for privacy while some are bold enough to say, “If she goes looking, she deserves what she finds.” I have yet to understand how someone taking an interest in their mate is a justification for cheating. I’m still trying to figure that one out. But I will tell you this from a woman’s perspective: If you have a woman who loves you and respects you and all she wants from you is to spend time with you, she should not have any reason to feel insecure about your relationship. If she did happen across your Facebook page or use your phone, she should not have to be assaulted by your infidelity. She should not open your Instagram and see a bevy of naked women. She should be treated with the same amount of love and respect that she treats you with. I’m not going to lie and say that women don’t cheat because they do. Not all men cheat and not all women are innocent. That’s a fact of life. BUT, if you have a woman who doesn’t cheat on you, who doesn’t look at you as a finance plan to help her out of her life of debt, who works hard, who supports you emotionally, who stimulates you mentally, who values you, she deserves your best. If you have a woman who stands by you when you’re not at your best, and you are not faithful to her and she still stands by you through it all and gives you chance after chance to get it right and you still don’t see fit to do right by her, you are probably holding the door open for her to walk right out of your life. When she stops getting upset about the things that you’re not doing in your relationship or when she feels that she has talked herself blue in the face with no result and she no longer mentions the things that bother her, even though you’re still doing them, you’ve lost her. When she starts to accept bad behavior and mediocrity in the relationship, her heart is no longer in it and she’s just biding her time, waiting to escape. My advice to you is to not let it get to that point. Listen to your woman. If everything in your relationship has been to enhance and improve you and your situation instead of tearing you down, listen to her. If she has been honest and faithful to you and shows you on a daily basis that she’s in it for you, listen to her. If she’s still there with you in spite of it all, listen to her. Listen to what she’s saying but more importantly, pay attention to what she’s not saying. Don’t allow what you have to become what you had. The grass is not always greener on the other side. If it is, there may several reasons for that: 1. Someone took time to cultivate and care for that lawn; 2. It’s full of shit (fertilizer); 3. It’s artificial turf and therefore not real. Think about it. I mean really think about it…with the big head, not the little one. If you are in a relationship and you don’t want to be in it anymore, leave. If you truly feel that other person is a better choice, go there. If you want salvage your relationship, you have to concentrate on that relationship and let all the other foolishness go. Think of it this way: If you are driving a car and you’re texting and watching a movie and eating all at the same time, are you concentrating on your driving or are you being distracted by the other things you’re doing? You may say you’re able to drive without being distracted but the accident rates on the highways say differently. #thatsall
Posted on: Tue, 16 Dec 2014 19:43:51 +0000
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