hello zane this is my first time emailing for advice and im not sure if this is it. But please keep me anonymous. Im 22 years old and I stay with my mom because shes having trouble financially and physically. Shes been complaining that her back hurts and she went to the doctor and even they dont know whats wrong with her. We are suppose to be here with just our dog but out of the kindness of our hearts we let this guy stay with us until he can get back up on his feet. The guy can be nice but he has bipolar and he can be a complete ass. He often made threats towards me and my mom and our dog and he negatively talks about me saying im lazy and I dont do anything. Im under disability so I cant work or go to school with my income and my moms income alone. And we have our reasons why a job and school is currently on hold. Im tired of dealing with him and since my moms illness is getting worse im tired of standing down and doing nothing. But the guy knows so much about us he could get us evicted or worse. Im just wondering as a christian what should I do? Should I let God handle it and turn the other cheek or should I say something even though he might turn his anger on me? MY RESPONSE: This is a very serious situation and I am sure that you now regret allowing this man to move in. While it is good to be kind, we have to make sure that our efforts do not put us in a position to be hurt. I get that he is threatening to have you evicted because his name is not on the lease and you have too many occupants in the place. Asking him to leave is probably not going to work because he is already making threats and must not have anyplace else to go. You can either take a restraining order based on his threats and he would have to leave or you can put in your 30 days notice to the apartment, find someplace else to live, and then move your mother and your dog and leave him sitting up in there looking foolish. Then the landlord will have to take care of it even if he blows the whistle then, you are already gone. Of course, all of this is provided that you have been there long enough to be on a month-to-month lease. I am going to pray for you but I will say this: I would be more concerned about his propensity for violence than I would be about being evicted. That might be the best thing for you because he no longer has any leverage and you do not have to let him move with you. In fact, I would start looking for another place, find one and then anonymously alert the landlord that their are three people in your place. If your landlord puts you out, then you are also out of the lease. Just have that other plan in place. Good luck.
Posted on: Sun, 13 Jul 2014 12:21:16 +0000
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