10 things you have to know about arranged marriages 1) Right age: Love knows no age, but in order to make agood match through arranged marriage, it is imperative to keep age consideration in mind. Thepreferable age for girls is around 25 or 26 and for guys no later than 30. 2) Self assessment:Take a pen and paper and list down what all things you expect in your spouse to be and what level of compatibility do you desire, that will be in tune with the compromises that will need to be made. 3) Decent Expectations:Expectations in an arranged marriage tend to run high and higher the expectations, greater are the disappointments because at the end of the day, it is not necessary thatall the virtues that you desire can be found in oneperson. 4) Economic compatibility:Arranged marriages take everything in account and strive for utmost compatibility even in termsof economic standing of the families. In fact, in olden days it was a way of ensuring financial security for the bride. 5) Beauty:Arranged marriage is about suitabilityand compatibility. Beauty can easily take a back seat. Your intended need not beas dashing as Tom Cruise or as charming as Kate Winslet. Looks are important but not the mostimportant thing. 6) Understanding:Now, this is the million dollar question: how can you understand a person in just one or two meets? At times a lifetime seems less to truly understand someone. It is here that you should share your feelings about the person with your very close friends or may be siblings. 7) Observe Etiquettes:Yes, there are some set codes ofconduct that society at large expects you to follow. For example, do sufficient background research about the person before consenting to meet. Answering in negation afterhaving met twice or thrice may be detrimental to the person’s self confidence. 8) Take Advice:Feel free to take advice from those youfeel will be able to guide you in the best possible way. Do not make a show of your feelings but then do not go about it unsolicited. 9) Final Decision:Do not just marry a girl or a guy just because your parents or friends asked you to. It has to be your own decision and you will be responsible for whatever happens later in the life. 10) Commitment:Arranged marriages are based on commitment and it is the most necessary element that keeps a relationship going.
Posted on: Wed, 19 Jun 2013 01:51:02 +0000
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