13 January 2015 She said that they develop a sick sense of humour her husband put a gun in her mouth in front of her children, and a few days later blew his own head off. She said they turn into monsters , and they lose track of reality and develop this sick sense of humour Black humour I know cops call it.. but those of us with a sense of balance and compassion, would call it sick.. Because it is sick Its as sick as the criminals they chase and lock up for doing sick things, they themselves have a sick way after a while.. And it gets worse not better over time .. Sharan Nicholson-Rogers watched her husband change from a happy-go-lucky police officer into an unpredictable man prone to violent and emotional outbursts. The gentle bloke she loved grabbed hold of her one day and shoved his gun down her throat, telling her he couldnt live any more because of what he was doing to their family. Eighteen months later, Detective Sergeant Scott Andrew Nicholson took his own life. That was 19 years ago. Today Mrs Nicholson-Rogers is as determined as she was the day her husband died to bring about change. There is complete contempt for anyone who falls. They will kick you to the kerb. She is calling for the establishment of a centre of excellence - a place where police officers can go for respite, support and treatment from mental health professionals. I know guys in the job right now who are crippled with PTSD [post-traumatic stress disorder], Mrs Nicholson-Rogers said. Theyre still working, doing their best to stay in the job, but they need help. So many have gone through poor management and there is complete contempt for anyone who falls. They will kick you to the kerb. Mrs Nicholson-Rogers sought help for her husband when she saw the signs he was losing control. He became this monster, he couldnt help it, everything triggered him, Mrs Nicholson-Rogers recalls. Id find him curled up in the foetal position, crying and crying. She urged her husband to talk to his boss about his emotional well-being and asked him to contact police welfare. He said to me Are you serious? Theyll say go to the pub and have a drink, get over it. He didnt drink much then but he soon learnt to so he wouldnt be labelled a sheila. They get this sick sense of humour, thats the way they get through it. Down at the pub or the bowlo for a debrief then the wives are left to pick up the mess at the end. Mrs Nicholson-Rogers and her two children have been to hell and back since her husbands 1996 suicide. It was only through counselling that Mrs Nicholson-Rogers, a health promotions officer with NSW Health, realised the true impact on her children. The day Scott had the gun down my throat, my seven-year-old son witnessed that. I didnt know at the time. Its impacted on them terribly. As they got older they realised the enormity of what had happened. Its been a really rough road for us. For more read on below illawarramercury.au/story/2808586/when-sharans-happy-go-lucky-husband-became-a-monster/
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