6 Types of Manipulation (1-2-3 Magic by Thomas Phelan) 1. Badgering- “Please, please, please.” Many kids have figured out that if they ask enough, they will wear your down and you will give in. Don’t do it. 2. Intimidation- “I hate you” or “You are the worst parent ever.” If you are prepared for this ahead of time, you will decrease the chances that the behavior will escalate. 3. Threat- “I going to run away” or “I will never speak to you again.” Know most of these are idle threats and are meant to push your button because they know deep down that you, as the parent, would do anything to keep them safe. 4. Martydom- “I never get anything” or “Everyone always gets to go but me.” Guilt is the main objective. Chances are, you do the best you can with what you have and your kid knows this. So, they have figured out that making you feel guilty will often lead to you giving in. 5. Butter-up- “You are the nicest parent ever.” Beware! Watch if this is often followed by a request. 6. Physical tactics- Hitting, kicking, etc. These are often used by younger children when their words are not enough to express their feelings. CAUTION: When you recognize these tactics in your child and start to be consistent with YOUR behavior, they will often switch tactics to see if she can get what she wants. Also, it will get worse before it get’s better- hang in there. The worst you can do is cave at the height of the manipulation. ~ written by Amy of True Hope Counseling in Jonesboro, Arkansas.
Posted on: Fri, 14 Mar 2014 05:24:41 +0000
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