A lot of womens obsessions is caused by the mind not focusing on the right productive things. Girls/Women have turned men to projects to be managed! I am a woman myself, I remember when I was 21, I was just from a relationship which was very simple. Simple in a sense that we were both young, no plans for the future but we were both comfortable with that, and we were both studying at that time. So things didnt work out because someway somehow he began to be insecure as I develop in life. He started pushing me away, and because I was so attached I didnt even know how to react, to me this was my first real thing. Wanderings of a Wounded Heart, from that moment I began to carry the pain of being rejected, not because I did something wrong but just because someone cannot handle a strong woman I am becoming. I missed the attention he used to give me, the calls, the messages, things were just not the same without him. I felt lonely. I met a someone, he gave me the attention, he was a flirt, never serious but I was hopeful, I thought He needed time to realize I am worth it, so that He can commit to me... But then today I realize a man knows what He wants, He knew we had no future, he just pretended he is still trying to figure out things. The next thing news started going around He is getting married This was a heavy knock down. My desire for affection grew, I just had to have a man. Then He came along, He could say the right things, at first he could even have time for me, I was so in love, with what! I dont know because he was a closed book that I never even bothered to open. 3weeks in the relationship but I still didnt even know his surname? How can one define this as love? It was during a time where Ive just started working, I was working with Elizabeth, I never had a proper scope of work, I would work as she requires my assistance. My mind was not busy, I was away from my friends, I would talk to them over the phone but tertiary is different from the working environment. So He became the centre of my focus, I wanted to talk to him ALL the time, I wanted to see him everyday. Mind you this guy is a Doctor, and he was doing his internship at that time. I remember one day I said I want to see you, so I will wait for you after work and He said I will come back late, things are hectic at work today,I am working at the clinics this week and you know how things are in the rural areas, if they hear that Dr is coming even those who are not sick want consult. and I will still have to drive you home, I will sleep drive because Im soo tired A-A! Did I even listen? No! I wanted to see him. In my shallow mind I said If he loves me then sure he will have time for me! SMSs started flying to him I dont understand! Why dont you want to see me? I started nagging! And now that Ive grown to understand what being busy means, I do understand that a man can, and will make time for his woman, but there are those unfortunate times where things are just not favorable, where you have to bear with him. That period is not time for you to go crazy, throwing tantrums, nagging and making wrong accusations. Because I am thinking, our relationship was still young, He couldnt be possibly avoiding me, he approached me. And what I was doing was to give him a go ahead to start running. He started ignoring me, never took my calls, never replied to my SMSs, never came to see me, Nothing!!! Did I stop because He was ignoring me? No! I kept on, I used my friends phone, I used my work phone, I even asked my colleague who was in the same situation Not Busy Dating A Busy Guy to call him and pretend to be my supervisor and explain to him that what he is doing to me is affecting my work! Oh! How I laugh when I remember this! The way it is embarrasing! I am grateful though, that though that embarasing experience I learned, Am far much wiser today thats why Im sharing it with you, with a big smile on my face. So he apologiesed to my supervisor on the phone and promised to talk to me and which he did, through an SMS. I cant remember the exact words but he said something like I want to focus on my spiritual growth. And free will advise - give a man too much attention and he will run away, and give him less attention he will keep coming to you Back then his words never made sense, it has been 5years and only now I get a grip of what he was saying. In simple terms he was saying that a man enjoys being a hunter, it is in his nature. He understands the principle of easy come, easy go! And if he doesnt even have to put a little effort to get you what will make him put effort to be with you? #BeStrongOnBeingReal
Posted on: Mon, 14 Jul 2014 11:36:32 +0000
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