*About that Magic Glue Youre Looking For....* This post is the contents of a wonderful email I received from Jacqueline Gates earlier that lays out some truths that most people will never tell you. If youve been wondering how others keep their business, life, success, etc all together when yours seems to come apart at the seams... give this a read. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ Hello, sumptuous one, Following my Backstage Pass to TMI missive last Friday, I got oodles of responses + questions + thanks-for-the-honestys. Deeply appreciate that. Thank you. There were several along thishere line and I asked the supernova who sent it inif it was ok to use it as a conversation-starter. She said it was ... yay! .... soooooo fill your teacup and lets get chatting. Here was her question: I for one know for certain everyone has a story. My biggest question is : How do you appear to have it together with glittery glue when daily my glittery glue seems to not stick? I cant seem to stay in the held together mode for a 24 hour whole day long...special glue you have perhaps? ~ Julie This question reallyreally hit home for me, because for the longest time, I thought Id missed out on that special glue. That thered been some kind of uber-awesome-THING I hadnt found yet, or that they hadnt told me about. And the veryworst part is ... it keeps one in an endless loop of looking for thatThing aaannnddd .... focused on the lack-of-it. #doublewhammyofdooooooom (Thinking about it, its very hard not to hit my head repeatedly on the desk right now. lol) But truly, its the kind of pattern that you cant see because ... well, youre IN it. It needs to be mirrored back to you. Which is why coaches have coaches and if youre in this loop, you probably need a coach too. But in the meantime, there are a couple of DIY Un-Looping strategies that Ive found very helpful First ... Repeat after me: NOBODY HAS IT ALL TOGETHER, ALL THE TIME! Nobody. And if they look like they do, theyre either lying or just not showing you everything. The second reason is more likely than the first. How do I know? Because of the very question that started this whole conversation. From what Julie has seen of me, she believes that I have it all together, 24 hours a day. I dont. Yes, its true that I have an utterly FAHbulous life ... I have a job that I love + Im making a difference in the world + I make 300% more than I used to a year ago + I have a husband who adores me. But its taken me a loooooonnngg time to get here (ie its NOT an overnight transformation) and it doesnt mean that I dont have down-days or things Im struggling with. (I might be a goddess but I am a human goddess lol) The key here is that yall dont get to see my whole life. You only see the bits I choose to make visible. And you can be damn sure the same thing goes for most other leaders too. Of course were going to share our successess + the things weve mastered. But the stuff that gets us all wobbly or that were still working through/wrestling-with/hiding-from? That crap only gets uncovered/explored/pounded-to-smithereens with an innermost circle of coaches + mentors + other wildly wise people. Then, weve got it all sorted out, only then will we share it on FB or on the blog. In hindsight. As a done deal. From a position of strength-regained. Ill only share with the world when I can educate, entertain or enlighten because, seriously, angelface, theres enough wailing + whining + woeisme shared on the airwaves already, dont you agree? And as Ive got more intimate with high-achieving movers + shakers, Ive found that most of them do the same... which is precisely why it appears that we have it all together. Yall only get to see the spiffy-shiny star turns, veryvery seldom the backstage chaos + meltdowns + endless rehearsals. Social media has given us an unprecedented window into other peoples lives but please remember, sweetie, its still a veryvery small window. The very worst thing you can do to yourself is compare your whole life with the snippets you can see of others. Its like comparing their highlight reel to your outtakes ... distorted + misleading + unhelpful. So this is precisely why I decided to go all TMI and behind-the-scenes on you all. Because I know two things for sure: 1. Comparisonitus will kill your dreams + suck your energy. 2. You dont have time for that crap. So heres your Recipe for Major Un-Looping: First, when the wobblies hit, remind yourself that this is part of the process and part of the progress too. Be gentle with yourself. Take a healthy handful of appreciation. Your life is probably already better than you think it is. Youre almost certainly richer than you think you are. Find the good stuff. Focus on it. Celebrate it. Thats how it gets better. Understand that when you notice someone doing what-you-yearn-to-be-doing, thats a sign that youre veryvery close. (In Abraham circles, thats called driftwood ... the little signs that old-time sailors used to look for to know theyre getting closer to land.) Noticing the driftwood brings more in. Remind yourself of how far youve come and shift your focus back to where youre going. * Do some Pray-Rain Journaling - write as though youre already where you aim to be * Write a love letter to your Future, thanking it for being so awesome - this reconnects you to your Best Self + your goals * Go clean something, declutter something - release the old to make way for the new. LOA Nesting works like a charm, btw. I know, cos I invented it. * Get moving - yoga, a walk, even 5 deep belly breaths will get you renewed + reactivated + repurposed. * Create something - art or sewing or baking or words ... it doesnt matter the medium, reconnect with your Power, your YOU-ness and turn that energy outward into something tangible. * Strike a Super Hero Pose for 5 minutes. Because your body language shapes who you are. (Im not kidding. It works.) And finally, thank the object-of-your-envy for being in your awareness (you might just like to keep this in your head or journal,btw), because now you know whats possible and youre that much closer to it. Then go off and do thatthingyoudo. Because ... you know .... no-one else can. And were kinda all waiting over here. Bliss-ings, The Goddess Known As Jacqui
Posted on: Thu, 02 Oct 2014 00:03:26 +0000
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