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Anger is like a mask.that covers hurt feelings or fear. So next time you get angry, see if you can trace the origin of this feeling to its root of disappointment, shame, fear, hurt, impotence or embarrassment. Learn to skillfully explain those emotions instead of the anger, and youll quickly find peace from understanding the misunderstanding. It has somehow become socially acceptable to publicly express frustration and irritation by yelling, slamming doors, giving someone the finger, or storming out of the room. For some reason, however, sensitivity and vulnerability are still frowned upon as signs of weakness (especially with men), even though honesty and grace are significantly more courageous than a bad temper. If we use anger to motivate change and fuel determination, it can actually drive our good intentions forward without causing any harm. But when anger isnt handled with care, it can turn into hatred and rage, and thats not only unproductive, its dangerous. When you are disappointed or irritated, take a moment to think about what you would like to accomplish, and youll find that screaming or acting out will rarely, if ever, get you the results you are after. EXPLAIN your anger, dont express it, and you will immediately open the door to solutions and understanding. Many people say this is easier said than done, but when you contemplate the ease or difficulty of any practice, dont forget to consider the challenge of the alternative. As difficult as it may be to express our insecurities in a healthy way, it is far more damaging to lose our temper or keep everything bottled up.inside. Remember the Freudian advice, Pain does not decompose when you bury it. Gratitude is the antidote to anger. We cannot be angry and grateful at the same time (one stomps the other). So choose gratitude every time, as it never fails to put the mind at ease. Timber Hawkeye - Buddhist Boot Camp. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. - Eleanor Roosevelt.
Posted on: Wed, 10 Sep 2014 21:50:05 +0000

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