As I continue to mature and grow, I find myself eschewing from certain relationships in favor of depth and quality in other relationships in my life. A common modern phrase that others habitually use, blood is thicker than water, has always given me an unease feeling of some sort because I simply cant empathize with that sentiment. I find it almost a paradoxical statement that invariably focuses on the idealistic vision of what family is supposed to be while neglecting some of the harsher realities others experience because of their families. At times, I think that some people are only concerned with what is immediate and pertinent to their lives, but then thats too pessimistic of a view on life. Other times, I think that some people have sincere, good intentions when they claim that they want the best for you, but then again, I deem that as way too much of an optimistic view. Realistically, I think that humans, at best, are irrational at the root of their being and their motives will probably always remain unclear. Regardless of the motives, some peoples actions, words and behaviors arent justified because theyre family; biology doesnt determine whats right or fair. All my life, Ive been taught that family should always come first before other bonds, but I cant bring myself to genuinely believe that. Family, ideally for me, is conceived as a supportive and inclusive group of people that should not bear any prejudices or harmful intentions to ones well-being. Experience, bonds, closeness, intimacy, trust and depth are some of the characteristics I attach to the relationships I value dearly in my life. Characteristics that ideally should exist in family ties, Ive often found in others; friends that Ive known for a brief amount of time have felt more like family than those who Ive known all my life. I see no legitimate reason or motivation to indiscriminately give my love to people, who by their own choices, have been and continue to be negative, detrimental and destructive to my well-being, based on nothing but a shared genetic link. Granted that I do have few family members I consider very close to me, I also appreciate the other meaningful relationships in my life with the people I consider family to me and I will continue to reciprocate the effort and love with single one of them.
Posted on: Tue, 27 Jan 2015 04:50:16 +0000
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