August 24th - the anniversary of Jay Erwins terrible accident. If I may, let me reflect back on this event and how it has changed so many peoples lives. I received the news from my daughter Emma (secondhand from a friend of a friend) on the evening of August 24th last year that Jay had been in a really bad accident. Not knowing any details, I didnt really know what to think or do. I received a few more details later that evening, but decided I needed to see personally myself, so we drove to Johnson City the next day. As we were walking into the visitor center trauma unit, his wife Lisa gave us the news that he would never walk again. My heart sank. I wasnt able to see him that day as the doctors didnt want him to have any visitors, as Jay was not doing good. Over the next couple of weeks I would get updates occasionally from Lisa or her sister. I was deeply saddened and, I must admit, mad at myself for not being the best friend over all those years and staying in touch. Jay and I had grown apart after high school. I suppose that is natural and it happens, but it shouldnt. Kinney Baughman and I went to visit Jay and Lisa the next week. I didnt know what to expect. I was doing okay, talking with Jay and Lisa in the hospital room and then Lisa showed me the x-rays. Reality struck me like a ton of bricks, and I must have turned a greyish white and about passed out, as the X-rays showed two metal rods that were surgically inserted to stabilize the spine. Another showed how his left shoulder was completely crushed and floating about 6 inches down from where it used to be. Over the weeks and months we stayed in touch. He was moved to the Shepard Center in Atlanta, where he would do rehab for several months. I was fortunate to see him at the Shepard Center in October and saw firsthand how his new life would be, and heard from him how he is a fighter and God has a purpose for him. I was so proud of him for his attitude. The nurses told me they had really never seen anyone like Jay - always upbeat, always encouraging others. In April, the national van completion happened. Jays story grew and people from the local community, and really all over the US and world were voting every day. I remember getting up early to figure out the question of the day and get my votes in. The voting took off like wildfire - Kinney created a script to keep us all involved and Jay finished second in the voting competition. We all were hopeful that Jay would get that van, and saddened when he wasnt chosen. At the end of May, I asked Jay and Lisas permission to start fundraising efforts on their behalf. The gofundme,com/jayerwin was created along with the video of Jay - depicting him then and now. Much like the vote for Jay site, funds started pouring in - $20.000 the first week alone - and up to $30,000 by the middle of July. My heart was filled with joy as people from all over - many who dont even know Jay - gave to help. July. 27th - I get a call from an anonymous group that they love Jay and his story and how he has touched so many people and that they want to match our efforts and donate another $30,000. When I called Jay - he really didnt know what to say - amazed and probably shocked. So, I know this has been a long post. But on this anniversary date of this tragic accident, I wanted to share the story again and have some reflection time on how tragedy can shape lives. Jay and Lisa have certainly changed and have many struggles with an uphill battle. But, Jay tells me in many ways he has changed for the better. He is closer to his wife (who is an incredible person and such a source of strength). He is close to his best friend from high school again. He inspires a community to stay strong - just see the lines of people form at the Greenway or the mall when he is around. And, he tells me he is closer to God than he ever has been. Quite an admirable person my friend. I think of you often and pray for you daily. May your struggles continue to get easier. Thank you for being you and may you have some peace knowing that you have touched the hearts of many, and are an inspiration - my hero. Love you, Tom
Posted on: Sun, 24 Aug 2014 13:38:21 +0000
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