BUDAPEST On 22-24/8 we had quite a mixed audience attending the Budapest master course on Psychotherapy by Karma Transformation at the Tan Kapuja Buddhist College, held by Professor Kwee. The topic being both one of psychology and of Buddhism, we had representatives from both sides in a great number. The course was well structured. On the first day we got a very good theoretical background on Relational Buddhism, which was spiced up with a big amount of practice. After lunch we actually did a case study and we applied the method on a brave volunteering lady who was not afraid to come out with some of the things that made her suffer and unhappy. It was great to see how with the help of Professor Kwee and the advice from the audience the woman was able to solve the problem step by step, getting closer and closer to her own self and developing a nicer, milder self talk than what she was used to. She also got a homework assignment that would help her get rid of the detrimental way of looking at certain situations. The day ended with some group work where we were encouraged to try out Professor Kwee’s ABC method. During the break, I was talking to a smaller group of people and one of the psychologists from that group said that we should volunteer for the analysis because it is a rare occasion to work with someone so professionally advanced. The second day we started with an open discussion. That little thought started buzzing me from then on, so on this second day I volunteered to be chosen as a subject. What made it easier to come up, besides the encouragement I’ve got, was that I realized I should not be so attached to any image about myself and so I made my way to the white board. I tried my best to describe the situation and my feelings as honestly as possible. Sometimes it got really hard when we got to layers that were too obscure to penetrate, but this just demonstrated to me how deep this apparently simple ABC method can go. All the time I was in front, Professor Kwee and many of the audience were trying to find the best solutions to the problem I was sharing, and it really felt like a great and amazing atmosphere. Everyone was working hard to help and learn. For me too it was really intense and mind changing. Even after I was done and went back to my seat or was hanging out in the breaks, lots of people came to me to congratulate me… although I did nothing but a selfish act of going on the podium, exposing my problem while wanting a solution. Some shared that they had similar problems, other were really kind and compassionate. It was not like anything I have experienced before. The afternoon passed with some more material that included lots of funny visual quick gratifications to which our eyes are so used to, so I instantly felt relaxed as if I was surfing my tumblr or instagram. But all the jokes and funny pictures were in relationship with the subject and were helping in the effort of making the point. The third day we discussed some open topics and we continued on rehearsing the steps of the ABC. I really felt I gained a really good and thorough understanding of the method and that I would gladly apply it to help other people who would like to try it out. In fact the day after the course I immediately applied it on myself because I had a powerful feeling of anger against someone that I was able to resolve within 30 minutes while jotting down my thoughts on several pages (4,5) following the ABC method. Then I called that person, talked about my feelings, and made up in a nice way. Just imagine the perspective if one day you are able to solve the issue of anger in 30 minutes through this method, the next day, you might do it in your head in 10 and the day after… who knows… maybe it might feel so at ease with your own self that you don’t even allow these kinds of thoughts to interfere in your relationship with yourself and others. At the end of the course, we got the learning experience of how to deconstruct dualism and saw a glimpse of non-dualism. We put it into practice in some group discussions which made us laugh a lot. This was one of the steps towards the idea of emptiness. The next was the laughing therapy, followed by a beautiful smiling meditation that I will for sure practice in the future and of which I became more mindful (or heartful :) ). Then came some dancing and singing, and the end. As you can see I love writing, so if you are in a hurry and want a short summary of the course then here it is: AHA and HAHA. Timea Kengyel, professional @ GBS Change and Controlling Partner @ Celanese
Posted on: Fri, 02 Aug 2013 11:07:00 +0000
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