Balanced Optimistic Statements: Many times we get impatient with our progress and beat ourselves up for thinking negative thoughts about ourselves or others (causing us to feel even more badly). We do our Affirmations and Gratitude Statements and we want to feel instantly better. When this does not happen or we revert back to our negating thinking, we start to doubt whether this whole process actually works. You are normal!! There are 2 things to keep in mind: 1. When you attempt to change the way you process your life in a more positive manner, you are trying to change the way you have been taught to think. You likely have been thinking this way for many years and are quite skilled at it. You were trained to scan your surroundings and instantly pick out dangers; both potential social and potential physical dangers. Changing the way you approach any situation with a more Optimistic framework will take some time and patience is the key. It may take more time than you would prefer but rest assured progress is likely when you are consistent and gentle with your daily exercises. Slow and steady wins the race! 2. When you come up with new Optimistic Outlooks (Affirmations, Counter Points or Gratitude Statements), the key is to create balanced and realistic statements. If you try to reach too far up the Optimistic ladder then you may trigger a dismissal response. This is where right after you say an Affirmation like I am a wonderful person... you instantly say to yourself Ya right, thats not true - I am not a good person....I really am a bad person. This process is full of crap. It does not work anyway. Why am I doing this? etc... If you find yourself doing this then dial back the level of Optimism. For example say things like I have some good qualities, they are... I do nice things for people from time to time. I can see the good in some people and I can try to look for the good in more. I am getting more comfortable with who I am. Everyone is different and I have some unique qualities... etc... When you are gentle with yourself and your progress then you can just relax and let yourself heal slowly. You WILL start to see some progress and over time you will see steady improvement in your thinking and feeling. You may find that from time to time you seem to revert back to old patterns - this is normal! Your backward slide will not put you back to square one and you will also not stay back for very long - your forward process will start again and you will move past this particular issue soon enough.
Posted on: Fri, 22 Aug 2014 13:00:00 +0000
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