Being a counselor has made me a way better listener than I used to be. Sometimes when Im with a friend and we have a million things to catch up on, I like to just shut up and give them the gift of listening. Even if we leave and I feel like I didnt get to tell my friend all the salient parts of my life, I feel so much happier than if I had talked the whole time. Of course, its nice when theres balance. Listening and asking questions is such a potent people skill. In fact it amazes me when when I meet smart, savvy people---even top leaders and speakers---who dont know this simple communication skills. Theyll sit down at a table and monopolize the conversation. *People always like you based on HOW YOU MADE THEM feel, not how impressive you were. The way you make people feel good is to listen and ask questions. When they tell you something, ask another question, rather than top it with your story. If youre not sure what Im talking about, pick up a copy of How to Win Friends and Influence People (the title sounds manipulative but believe me theres a reason its at the top of the bestseller list decades after it was published).
Posted on: Fri, 28 Mar 2014 20:53:54 +0000
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