Bringing up Children in Islam The tarbiya of a child begins much before the birth of a child. It starts by choosing a pious wife. Even before the child is born, yu should mke an intention of making ur child an aalim, haafiz, daaee etc. During pregnancy, a woman should tke cre of what she utters frm her tongue nd also should try to read as much quran as possible. Coz after certain months, the baby begins to hear nd absorb wat is goin on around him. A pious woman who will have her eyes, tongue, ears, actions intentions guarded will have a pious outcome. Give ur child a good name. Keep reminding them of its meaning nd mke them feel special. Kids at their very tender age can be moulded the way we want, bt once they grow up it becomes difficult to mould them. The nature of children is like a plain paper.. Whatever is imprinted on it initially will remain forever. Therefore it is important to create goodimages on this clean and pure page. You shuld build in the child The yaqeen for three things: A. Tawheed, Oneness of Allah: To build this yaqeen.. Keep repeating five sentences with ur child: 1. Allah tala is watching everything 2. Allah tala listens to everything 3. Everything comes from Allah tala 4. It is Allah tala who gives everything 5. Allah tala will become angry B. Risaalat: tell the seerah of our habeeb Muhammad saws to ur kids. Instill in their hearts love for d prophet s.a.w. Teach them d sunnah of day nd night. Instead of superman Spiderman.. Let them hve Muhammad s.a.w nd d sahabaahs as their role model. C. Aakhirat: create d desire for jannah in d hearts of ur kids by mentioning to them the beauties nd gifts in jannah! Tell them that there is ice cream nd chocs nd toys in jannah... speak to them abt jannah in their language. Similarly.. Create in dem fear for jahannum.. instead of scaring them with ghosts, Scare them with jahannum. These days, parents are busy nd when their toddlers want to tlk to them, they keep them busy wid tv nd oder distractions, avoid doin this coz this wil mke ur children unproductive nd we are all aware of the ill effects that these wil have on our children. Help ur kids choose good companions. Do not give ur children so much that they develop the habit of askin nor frustrate them soo much that they loose hope. Do not fulfill all their wishes as this will spoil them. Keep promises. When yu promise to buy them smthin den do buy them.. This way they will learn to trust yu. Children do wat they see yu doin nd not wat yu ask them to do. So be very careful abt hw yu behave.. They will treat yu d same way they see yu treating ur parents.. Be their superman/superwoman. Recite the duas urself while dressing them up or feeding them, they will soon learn all d duas nd practice it. Kids dont understand hidden love. Express ur love for them with little things. If kids r deprived of love at home, den they will seek love nd comfort from outside which can cause them harm. From a very young age itself, Make ur kids dress in accordance with Islam, this will instil haya in them which is a very important part of iman. When yu want ur kids to respect ur privacy with ur spouse, ask them permission when they are playin to interrupt them. they wuld learn the same when they have to interrupt yu. Theres a hadees which says to the effect, fear Allah nd treat children fairly. Do not be partial towards ur kids as this will make dem jealous nd will distance them frm yu. If ur child is secretive, den yu hve mde a habit of blowing things out of proportion nd over reacting. Over protective parents raise the best liars. Make it a habit for them to make dua for you and everyone. Make dua for them too on what they like the most ...let them hear yu mke dat dua.. Dis wil mke dem happy nd increase their love for u.
Posted on: Mon, 17 Mar 2014 16:08:30 +0000
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