Chapter 32 Every scar tells a story… “Well I don’t know about that, as I said yitshomi yam nje” I said. “Hayi ZamaJola kaloku umdala ngoku, asinangxaki thina xa ubonwa ngumfana” she continued. “Oh hai Jola torho khandimele kancinci” I knew uba I was not going to hear the end it so I left the room. Oh my God Tyler! why didn’t he ask me, is he sick? I thought. “You are such a joker you know…” I texted. He rang immediately: Me: what the hell was that about? Tyler: What baby… *He said in a cool voice* Me: Who told you to speak to my mom? Are you ok tho? Tyler: Jo will you marry me? Me: How romantic Tyler! *sarcastically* Tyler: Jo I asked you a question, will you marry me? Me: No…*don’t know why I said that* Tyler: Come on Jo, I am being serious here Me: I know you are… Look Tyler, you can’t expect me to say yes Tyler: Why Me: Really, you are proposing over the phone?... Honestly ladies would you take that serious? Guys it does not work like that kaloku; when you are about to propose marriage to your woman, you make an effort and go out of your way to make her see that you are serious about the whole thing…not over the phone! Tyler: Jojo I couldn’t wait for you to come back, I wanted you to know now and also wanted to talk to your parents whilst you are there. Me: Oh dear, Oh dear…you know what baby let’s leave it for now, is it ok if we talk about it when I get back. Tyler doesn’t have a clue of what he is getting himself into, you don’t do that when you want to marry a Xhosa girl; he needed a lecture. Tyler: Jo I want both of you here with me, that’s why I needed to talk to your parents. Me: Who? Tyler: You and Sam Me: Oh My God are you bloody kidding me? They will never allow that. Babes let’s just leave it for now. Tyler loved Sam, even though there was a language barrier between them but I knew he cared deeply about her. As soon as I finished talking to Tyler, nanko ke umamakho “nguTayila lowo Jojo?” Mna: Hai bo mama! Mama: Hi kaloku ndiva ukhumsha Mna: Asinguye Mama: kaloku uthe uTayila uzaphinda afoune azothetha notatakho Mna: Asingo Tayila Jola, ngu Tyler…*Thayla* and akazophinda afoune ndzathetha ngokwam notata Mama: Hai wethu asikhumshanga thina ZamaJola, khona ligama elinjani eli ngathi lelama Taliyane, Oh kodwa ingathi ulingile shame.Wenza ntoni? Mna: Hai bo mama! Hai hai khandiyeke tyhini!...Yhuu waze wandenza Tyler, hai sana ndzoyibeleka ikrwempa va. My mom was not those kinds of mothers, you can freely discuss your boyfriend with. The whole thing was foreign and uncomfortable for me. I wanted her to stop it thyini Thixo. Mama: ZamaJola mntana ucinga andiyazi ukwintanga zoba namakhwenkwe ngoku. Kaloku ndifuna uyazi uba wenza ntoni lomfana. Wena ucinga andiye ndikubone apha uminciminciza uthetha nalomfana ephonini apha, fike uncume ngathi umka nomsinga. Uwhauww! Lonto ke ubonba ingathi awakwazi nothetha mntane Jola. Ndikubukele mntanam…Thetha ndixelele ngalomfana ufuna ukukutshata. Mna: hahahah! Hai ke ngoku mama *intloni zam!*, yabona ke soze aphinde afounele apha endlini ke. Mama: Anditsho qha ndithi ndikubukele…uthi wenza ntoni ke umfana lo Mna*hai there is no way out apha nhe* He is a medical technologist Mama: hehake ZamaJola waske wandikhumshela! MntaneJola! Ndzayazelaphi ke mna lonto Mna: Iyhoo hai ke mama, ndzathi yintoni mna… Mama: NguQhirha? Me: You know what mama, what he does is not important uyasebenza qha esibhedlele and akangoqhirha. Mama: Ohhhh! Nadibana njani… Oh bethunana, I never had such conversations with my mother, at this point I felt very emotional 1. A about the direction our relationship was going, you know I could see that she appreciated the fact that I was a young woman. 2. Thinking about how I met Tyler, how messy my life was. You what; I felt like telling her EVERYTHING for the first time ever. I made coffee for us and I told her about everything; from when I met Bongie, Life in aunt Nyamie’s house and how I met Tyler (only left the pregnancy part). By the time I finished my mom was in tears, actually we were both in tears. I think the strong bond we have today started that day. Before that day I always saw her as this up tight, control freak, strict, almost mean mother. As I was sitting next to her; she took my head to her laps and said “Oh mntanam yhini ubungasixeleli ngathi besikulahla”. I felt her pain but you know what; from every wound there is a scar, and every scar tells a story. A story that says, I survived. Yho hayi ke I guess I planted a seed in my mom’s heart; she just fell in love with Tyler! Every day I was asked about him until I threatened her of never telling her izinto zam. My time to go back was getting closer, and I wanted to tell my dad about Tyler’s proposal but ndisoyika. My dad was so xenophobic, I was not sure if he will welcome my exciting new. Kaloku guys I was excited, I wanted to marry Tyler, he was thee ONE! He loved me and my daughter. We are easy like that ke thina guys, if usithande ne package yethu, we will give you heaven and earth ke mntasekhaya. A day before travelling back, I decided to finally speak my dad: Me: Leta ndiyahamba ke ngomso Tata: ewe mntanam, bendifuna utye I Epsom salt kodwa nje MaLeta, yabona oko uyitye ufika kwakho utsho watyeba….ok ke guys my dad was obsessed about Epsom salts nhe, he took a look at me the day ndifika wathi “hai hai maLeta, ufuna ndikwenzele lamxube wam uzokvula isisu esi ubhityile mntanam”. Me: hai ndi grand Leta, ndise right * just the thought of it was enough to make me sick*… my dad was cool, I could talk to him and he was always fair unlike my mom. Me: Ndizohamba but kukho umfana wapha ebefuna uthetha nawe *ndingafuni bendijikeleza* Tata: Mfana? Me: Hai tata ebefuna undicela apha kuwe, ebefuna uthetha nawe efonini*nervous* Tata: Haa? Wakhe wayiva phina lonto Jojo, umfana?ufuna ukukucela efounini? Me: Ewe kaloku akakho lapha Tata: Ngoku wena ufuna ucelwa? Me: Hai ke ngoku tata? Tata: Hai ndiyabuza Jo-jo (emphasising my name), wena ke ngoku mntanam ufuna ucelwa na? Me:*Hahake* Andiyazi kaloku tata…ewe Tata: Ithi ke mntanam athumele abantu bakowabo, ngowaphi yena , ingumni isiduko? Me: nditshilo kaloku ndathi ngowase London akanasduko Tata: Hhe?...
Posted on: Sun, 15 Sep 2013 22:22:59 +0000
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