Chibuike Aloka: MY THOUGHTS ABOUT MARRIAGE. This article have been on my mind for quite a long time now. I know Some people won’t agree with me on what I have to say here but I am going to say it eventhough am not married. Most people especially Nigerians have this high regards / values for marriage, which makes them think that marriage is the most important thing in this life. When a young man or woman is 30 years old or above and is yet to get married everybody will start throwing question at them to find out what’s preventing from getting married. Just like what happened few days ago when I posted Jim Iyke’s 38th birthday and everybody was like Hey Jim Iyke you are still romancing Nadia at 38? Shame on you. Go and get married you are still doing play boy at 38 while you are the only son of your family and so many other annoying comments which I can’t even remember now. Everybody was talking as if without marriage your life would never be complete. Please don’t get me wrong. Marriage as I know is a beautiful thing when you marry someone whom you can see as true friend and a life partner. Some one who understands your kind of person. Someone who can tolerate your weak points without giving it a second thought. Marriage as I have always said is a lifetime affair which have to be enjoyed and not to be endured. Getting married and staying married are two different thing altogether. Marriage is not something you wake up oneday and Say to yourself “ Let me get married my mate are getting married. Age is no longer on my side let me try and do it. My parents are pressurizing me let me get married to make them happy… blab la blab la bla….. I am sorry to say this If you are among these categories of people I mentioned above, I think you should sit back and think deep about what you are trying to do. Go out there and meet one or two married people then you’ll know what marriage is like. Marriage is not child’s play, It is a journey of life that requires a lot of preparations and commitment. One must be matured in every aspect of his or her life before even thinking of it. Do not get married because your mates are getting married. Don’t even dare because your parents want it from you by all means. You should get married because you are ready for it and not because of those stupid flimsy excuses. Your mates are going into marriage because they have found their soulmate and your parents won’t be there when things get worse. So you better think twice. Before you talk of marriage, ask your self these questions. Can I do the things of marriage ?Do I have anything in common with this man or woman am about to call my husbandor wife? Do we really love ourselves as we claim? Am I ready for this journey of no return? If I marry now will I still be able to carry my family members along? Will I be a good husband to my wife and also a good father to my kids? When the kids start coming can I stand upto my responsibilities as a mother or father? If your answers to these questions is a BIG YES then you are good to go. Most people think marriage is all about a man and woman coming together as husband and wife but let me make me make it clear to you, its about two people with matured minds staying together as huband and wife. My bottom line is this; Marriage is not a do or die affair. If your flesh is willing but the spirit is weak, please don’t give it a thought. The spiritual controls the physical, both must work together for good inorder to achieve a better result. If you can’t stand the sight of a crying baby then you are not matured enough for marriage. If you are the type of lady that always be like hmmmmm.. when they see a baby’s feaces. My dear you still have a long way to go because you must do all this things when you get married whether you like or not. Before you go into marriage, Develop yourself, attend marriage counseling programmes,Groom yourself, work on your on yourself to make sure every error is corrected and also make sure you understand this school of no graduation called marriage is all about . Pray to God for a life partner, for he alone knows what you want better than you do. Do not rush, it is better to marry very late and enjoy the benefits of a longlasting marriage than to marry early and still file for a divorce later. Be wise and be guided the most painful phrase a man can ever say in this life is “ HAD I KNOWN? MAY GOD HELP US…
Posted on: Mon, 29 Sep 2014 18:06:59 +0000
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