DEALING WITH BREAK-UP OF SERIOUS DATING OR COURTSHIP Breaking away from someone you have allowed your heart and mind to accommodate and love, and entertained some hopes in the person for a lasting relationship that would lead to marriage, could be a very perplexing and painful experience. But it is better to be safe and secure than to be trapped in danger and be sorry tomorrow (or even damaged permanently). Ensure that in your heart and mind, the person does not become an enemy after the break-up. That will hinder your growth, maturity, prayers, and blessings. This is the time to depend heavily on God’s word. God heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalm 147:3). Meditate also on Habakkuk 2:3, 4; Isaiah 64:4; Psalm 27:1, 14; Psalm 119:92; and Phil. 4:4-13. God sometimes allow good things to be taken away, in order to give us the best. Never allow your disappointing relationship situation to make you say or do anything that will displease the Lord, and block your future blessings. Say good things for yourself, forgive your partner and all those involved, bless them and bless yourself --- remember that death and life are in the power of the tongue (Prov. 18:21). The blessings from your lips and love in your heart will be a formidable armor that will cause all attacks to bounce off, and enable you to walk in peace, protection, and freedom. You also open yourself up for God’s grace and blessings to be poured into your life for future success. If you need to break any relationship in order to please God and be in God’s will to do what pleases God and become successful in order to fulfill your destiny, then boldly take decisive steps to break it! We are talking about a relationship leading to marriage; we are not talking of divorce or marital separation in this discussion --- those will be treated separately. Do the sensible breaking, and let God deal with any feelings of shame, bitterness, fears, possible losses, and regrets. When the thoughts and feelings later set in to attack your mind and heart, determine to fight them with praises, prayer, kindness, love, good deeds, appreciation, and scriptures (such as Habakkuk 2:3, 4; Isaiah 64:4; Psalm 27:1, 14; Psalm 119:92; and Phil. 4:4-13). Tell God (and yourself) My times are in Your Hands! (Psalm 31:15), especially when you are tempted to compare yourself with other peoples courtships, marriages, kids, families, riches, prosperity etc., and when people ask you certain probing or unreasonable questions or make sarcastic, sneering, painful, foolish, and unkind comments. Note also that others who sincerely love you and have your interest at heart, will ask wise and caring questions, and make comments out of love, sympathy, empathy, and compassion. Distinguish the two groups of people very carefully, without making unnecessary enemies, isolating yourself and isolating others, becoming unduly aggressive or deflated and purposeless, losing focus, becoming immoral or ungodly, and harboring unreasonable prejudice against others, when it is all over. Written by Dr. Samuel Kisseadoo. Professor of Biology, Virginia, USA. Ordained Licensed Minister, International Evangelist. Relationships, Marriage, and Family Counselor. Founder and President of Fruitful Ministries International Inc. (an evangelistic & teaching ministry). E-mail: kisseadoo@msn. For free counseling, programs, prayer, messages, books, speaking engagements, call Dr. Kisseadoo in Virginia on 1-757-7289330 (or call 233-20-8126533 in Accra or 233-275-353802 in Kumasi, Ghana). Ghana Fruitful Ministry E-mail: fmighana_accra@yahoo). Obtain additional rich information from Dr. Kisseadoos’s books in Accra, Ghana, at Challenge Bookstores or Calvary Baptist Bookstore at Adabraka (near Nkrumah Circle); or Baptist Bookstore at Amakom in Kumasi, Ghana (opposite Anglican High School); or call 233-208209567. Use his name “Dr. Samuel Kisseadoo” to search: RedLeadBooks or Amazon for some of his books. He can personally mail some copies to you as well. Tune in to JOY 99.7 FM in Accra, Ghana to listen to Dr. Kisseadoo’s weekly broadcast “Hope For Your Family” on Sat. 5:30am-6am, Ghana time (12:30am-1:00am, US Eastern Time in Nov-March). Access the broadcast on the Internet with MYJOYONLINE.COM. Website for resources: fruitfulministriesint. Facebook --- DrSamuel Kisseadoo, or RevDr. Kisseadoo; or FM Int. Inc. In Ghana, call Tigo or Airtel 545 and follow the prompts for daily inspirational messages of Dr. Kisseadoo. Permission granted to freely share but with acknowledgement.
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