Dreams and Relationships 5/9/2014 Many problems with relationships are caused by one partner over-controlling the other and you may remember that last week we discussed how we are all trying to control the other people in our lives. We do this by acting out one or more of the roles we call Control Dramas. These are the Intimidator, the Aloof, the Critic and the Poor Me. If you want to know why your relationships are not working then you need to know what role you act out in your relationships and what type of role-players you are attracting into your life. Sometimes we over-control our partners and this can lead to discord or even illness in the long term. These power struggles and their affect on the parties involved will appear in dreams; Some of us are in the habit of acting the role of victim (the Poor Me) or the nit-picking, fault finder (the Critic) but what happens when a Poor Me marries a Critic.? What affect can they have on each other and how does that show up in dreams ? Last week I left you with 3 dreams from the same dreamer - a man in a relationship. The dreams contained several sets of 2 (2 guns, 2 eyes, 2 hammers, 2 people playing tennis) all indications that the dreams were about the nature or pattern of his relationships. (1) In the 1st dream he is being chased by a woman with two guns who is trying to rob him. She fires several shots at him. A policeman shoots back but his bullets are neutralised by her. Interpretation; His relationship is a power struggle. His wife (played by the woman) is very critical of him - always “shooting him down”. When he (played by the policemen) tries to hit back his power is” neutralised “ by hers. So, you can see that he is the victim (Poor Me) and she is the Critic. (2) In the 2nd dream he is walking along the beach and comes upon” an empty shell”. He realises that he is living in it with his wife. Interpretation: Constant criticism of his every plan, every idea, every decision and every initiative by his partner is having a “brain washing” effect on him. Unless he leaves the relationship or learns psychic self defence he will become “an empty shell” - incapable of thinking for himself and totally dependent on her. Why should he think or remember if he allows her to do it for him ? (3) In the 3rd dream a doctor is showing him how the eye of one of his patients is being worn away or decayed. He invites him to have an eye operation but he is reluctant to pay for it. Interpretation: The “eye” referred to here is the “I” as in “I am” (Dreams are full of such puns) - in other words his sense of self or identity which is being eroded. (brain washed ) He is reluctant to change this (unwilling to pay in the dream). Control Dramas, as you will see determine the chronic ailments we can develop and even what we may eventually, die from. Aloofs for example are inclined to heart ailments, Critics are subject to arthritis, colonic issues, M.E and M.S. , Poor Me’s to cancer, Intimidators to strokes and blood pressure, and so on, You can, of course change this by working on yourself and eliminate them - to a great extent from your life. They are simply aspects of the ego or personality and are nothing more than a collection of bad habits. It would be wrong to assume that the problems and ailments of the man in the 3 dreams is entirely down to his partner over-controlling him. His parents and especially the mother and mother-figures in his life started him on a pattern of response to females which his partner is now following, If he left her he would most likely find another Critic to continue with the pattern, We are all inclined to cling to “the devil we know”. There is a spiritual dimension to all this. The purpose of this life is to leave the planet a better soul than you were coming in and in previous lives. We may not consciously know our Life Purpose (unless we look for it in dreams) but one important aspect of this life plan is to eliminate - at least to some extent the negative aspects of our personalities. Before you were born you chose your parents precisely because they had faults and weakness (Control Dramas) that you need to eliminate in yourself. You knew that you would copy some of these and the trouble, upset and illness this would bring into your life would teach you not to be like this, To know what your Life Purpose is ask yourself: “What positive aspects were lacking in each of my parents? These are what I need to develop in myself.” For example; My father lacked the quality of “being there” for people (He was an Aloof) and my mother lacked compassion and patience (an Intimidator) so my Life Purpose is to learn how to be there for people with compassion and patience. Our problems and illnesses are there for the purpose of teaching us the consequences of negative thinking. If we don’t learn this the easy way (dreams, meditation, working on the self) we will learn it the hard way (illness, suffering, “bad luck”) Your puzzle for the week is to ask yourself ; “What Control Dramas do I act out ? What were my parents Control Dramas? How have I copied them ? How does that make me ill , affect my relationships, or otherwise cause me problems ? How am I affecting my children ? How much time do I spend thinking about how to control my partner ? ” We will be doing a Sunday training day workshop soon on healing techniques.. If you are interested or want to meet us in person we meet every Sunday at 11 a.m. for a 5 km. walk (Dublin ph. 01-4522722 ). All are welcome. Next Friday I will show you how to use your dreams as a computer. Love and Light George.
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