Group Input Requested: I need advice and support please. I am in the middle of an ugly custody battle. When I first left my ex he promised me that if I wasnt willing to reconcile he would take this to court and give me the biggest battle I have ever seen. He went on to say that he was not making a threat but a guaranteed promise and before all was said and done my boys would hate me from the bottom of their heart. That text predicted everything that is currently going on. I feel my evidence (hundreds of texts, recorded calls, and documentation) is strong and shows what kind of person he is. BUT, my own son (12 y/o) is claiming I abuse him and that he doesnt feel safe with me. I have been reported twice for child abuse and no cases have been opened. I have him in counseling but am feeling very discouraged. When I speak to his counselor I feel like she believes him when he says hes afraid of me. She said that he shows anxiety when she suggested a child-parent session with him and I and that his anxiety is real. I have never abused my children, and these accusations are heartbreaking. I know my son is not afraid of me. He is often defiant and disrespectful. He calls me a liar, hypocrite, control freak, selfish, etc. ALL the same names his dad calls me. I know that he is only saying this to try and be with his dad all the time (weve have a 50/50 temp order since jan). We got a GAL and I am scheduled to meet with her next tues. I am extremely stressed and scared. I am not bothered by my exes accusations. They are lies (actually projection of the things hes doing) so he has no proof. However, I dont know how to defend myself from the accusations of my own child. I am just so devastated and bewildered by all this...I have no idea how to handle this. Do I keep him with this counselor...shes his second one. Or do I look for someone else just so he can tell them hes afraid of me? For the first time since this all started I feel helpless and defeated. Please help. Id like to add that I have a 6 y/o son as well and feel both my ex and older son are influencing him and turning him against me as well he agrees with whatever his brother says if its true or not. When my oldest is angry and disrespectful towards me, he is too. Im terrified of losing my children to a man who is pure evil.
Posted on: Sat, 11 Oct 2014 09:59:18 +0000