Group support and input needed: Ive posted here before but cant find my post. Im estranged from dd 15, and ds 22. I left twice after verbal/emotional abuse, his 3 year A. And his constant triangulation of son against me. I text the kids but get no reply at this point. Nh wants us to go to family therapy. But he is a classic N and we have been to many therapists and everything is my fault....Im the hater, the bad Christian, the unforgiver. Ive been out of the house a year now. Had a choice, leave or stay there and have a complete breakdown. H and son were attacking me verbally, h would set the stage by telling son something I had done. Such as object to son having our credit card free use. H would tell son that I didnt trust him and son would rage and swear at me. I took dd and left. After a few shared weeks he lured her back, told her that her dogs missed her, he was depressed without her, he would let her get piercings and have no curfew. He has brainwashed her now that I was the one to abandon the family and I wont give him any money (he gets plenty of money and has refused a lump sum twice despite the property taxes being unpaid on the house for one year). I have the D papers ready to go, but am paralyzed to make them out. He wont change, during the affair he was lying to the OW, telling her he was having dangerous medical tests, threatening suicide if she pulled away, and then when she finally had enough he went to her church and denounced her to her elders. He now denies the affair, despite confessing to our minister in front of me and taking an aids test. He says that is all a fantasy of mine. Thanks if youve stayed with me. Where do I go from here? Ive lost my home, my kids, my ability to work. Last text from dd was that she will never forgive me for leaving the family (though she willingly stayed with me when we first left before his PAS campaign started. I cant see going back, I left with dd once before for 5 months and it was much worse on my return. Sons gf was allowed to move in rent free over my objection and they were so rude, and h would encourage it. What do I do? How do I cope? Im full of anxiety and depression. My kids were my life. He estranged me from my birth family years ago. I am at a loss of what to live for.
Posted on: Tue, 22 Jul 2014 17:56:22 +0000
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