HOW CAN I REPLY A MAN When it comes to responding to marriage proposals, many sisters have killed a brother with their words! Are you superior to anyone? NO! Then why murder a man because he came to propose? HOW DO I RESPOND TO A MARRIAGE PROPOSAL? Lady, you dont have to destroy a man with your words just because he proposed to you! Naturally, a man has the freedom to propose to any lady he feels he likes! Though God-fearing men should know that they are only permitted to propose ONLY to the woman whom God has led them to; because marriage isnt trial and error! Nevertheless, lets not deceive ourselves; you cannot stop the wrong men from coming around you in their numbers, even before the right one shows up! If you keep ridiculing all of them, wont you mistakenly ridicule the right one too and chase him with your harsh/negative words before realising it? Colossians 4:6(AMP): Let your speech at all times be gracious (pleasant and winsome), seasoned [as it were] with salt, [so that you may never be at a loss] to know how you ought to answer anyone [who puts a question to you]. When a man proposes, it is the duty of the sister to pray and ascertain if he is Gods will for her! (Remember, as a child of God, God will NEVER lead you to a sinner...His stand on Be not unequally yoked together... cannot be reversed for anyone; be wise and dont be enticed by the possessions of a man! Not all that glitters is gold!). If after you have prayed and your response is NO, go back to the brother and tell him! Dont be indirect about it; be straight forward! Naturally, your negative response may weaken the brother, so try to back it up with some words of encouragement and advice! Encourage him to also pray more for God to reveal His best to Him, encourage him to know that Gods still got a beautiful wife for him. Dont kill him with your words! Nevertheless, not disputing the fact that we have some never say never, desperate men! Despite the sisters response; they keep pestering, shouting, insulting, using schemes, and all! But my dear sister, dont let him provoke you to anger, I know how disturbing this can be, but you cant totally avoid this! At this junction, you may resolve to act as the Spirit leads. You may ignore his subsequent messages if still buttresses on the already closed issue(thats if you are convinced that God wants you to give him a NO), so as not to make you act in anger nor reply with negative words; OR you just remain silent about it! Gods Wisdom and Grace is needed here! Sisters, you need to know that when it comes to responding to proposals, there is no option of sitting on the fence; its either you give a YES or NO answer! Matthew 5:37(AMP): Let your Yes be simply Yes, and your No be simply No; anything more than that comes from the evil one. Many ladies love to sit on the fence in this regard, especially when the brother has some chips in his pocket; they try to hold him down, thereby playing games with him and the right one! Why would you DELIBERATELY keep a brother waiting for years, saying: youre still praying about it just to give a response? Does it take God years to speak? If you are In this category, youd better not wait till you are replaced by God! No wonder, some brothers feel sisters dont pray, but that their answers are determined by the size of a mans pocket and wealth; though this could be true for some sisters,BUT I STAND BOLD to say, we have Sisters who have prayed, and enjoying their godly courtship/marriage; and SISTERS WHO WILL ALWAYS PRAY before taking any step towards marriage!!! My Precious sisters, the beautiful handwork of God; please always put yourself in the right spiritual state, and pray for Gods direction before taking any step in this area (and other areas of your life). Dont make a life-time mistake! God speaks, but it takes you to be His child to hear/understand His Voice! (If you are not yet His child, why not open the door of your heart to Him now, not just for the sake of marriage, but for His love and for the sake of Heaven). Study His word to know His will and be open to Him! Sister, If your answer is NO, give it to the brother immediately, and let him go! If your answer is YES, then tell him also immediately; It doesnt make him feel less of you! As long as God is involved, your love in his heart is divine, and has been put there by God! Do your part, and see it blossom and Gods blessings will flow. My beloved sisters, the Esthers, Deborahs, Dorcas of tomorrow; lets be reminded that we are like a beautiful flower in a garden! And any man who sees a beautiful garden will always be attracted to it, but its now left for you as the watchman/gardener to determine who enters your garden. Just be ready to leave with the consequences of the decision you make for the rest of your life; no reverse gear. Whoever you open your garden to will determine if your beautiful flower will spring into a bigger, more beautiful one; OR if thorns will be planted to choke it! Sisters watch and pray, so you dont fall a prey! Dont be moved by the achievements/titles/car/house of a man; let God move you!!! Let God announce you Himself to that great brother; stop going about displaying yourself and falling cheap just to attract a mans attention! If you do this, its because you dont trust God to give you the best! Moreover, doesnt God know better than you do? How far can your natural eyes see? Dont change location when God hasnt led you to do so! Why not settle with God in your secret place, why not be like the widow woman of Zarephath, who was in her house, worried about how to survive the next day, and even prepared for her death; but God sent Elijah to her house, though she fed Elijah, but this led to her own divine provision, long life and sustenance of her child(1Kings 17)! Beloved, Let God send the right man that will bring forth HIS glory in your life; rely on God for He alone knows the way in the wilderness! Cast all your worries and cares about this issue of marriage at Jesus feet and see if He will not divinely favour you like Esther! God has done it before for so many sisters; He will do yours too! I AM FULLY PERSUADED THAT, WHAT GOD HAS PROMISED, HE IS MORE THAN ABLE ALSO TO PERFORM (Romans 4:21).This coming year, well rejoice with you, because God will divinely visit you in JESUS NAME- AMEN!!!i wish u all the best.happy love feast celebration.
Posted on: Fri, 26 Dec 2014 23:22:24 +0000
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