HOW TO OVERCOME MARRIAGE DISILLUSIONMENT: Here is another testimony from Leslie Ludy, a woman whose high expectations for marriage did not resulted in disillusionment. A testimony worth emulating. Leslie said, When Eric and I were first married, I heard a Christian psychologist on the radio say, “Every married couple, at some point in their life together, will wake up one morning, look across the table at their spouse, and wonder whether they married the right person.” I was horrified at such a thought. God had perfectly scripted my love story with Eric, and I had grown to recognize God as the true Author of romance. Why should I expect something that started out so beautiful to end up turning so sour? I mentioned this to other married Christians and always seemed to hear the same response. “Just wait,” they would tell me. “You are still a newlywed. Pretty soon the honeymoon magic will die, and you’ll understand what that guy was talking about.” But Eric and I refused to give in to their dismal expectations. We were convinced that when God puts something together, it only gets better with time. Think about Christ’s first miracle—turning water into wine at a wedding. The wedding host was astounded that the very best wine was saved until the end of the celebration. This is a profound picture of what Christ does for a marriage relationship that is centered on Him. When Jesus builds a lifelong romance between a husband and wife, He saves the best for last! Now Eric and I have been married almost 13 years. And I can honestly say that our love story has only grown more beautiful, more romantic, and more fulfilling with every passing year. (Just this morning, I found a sweet love letter from Eric waiting for me as I sat down to write!) We have never once looked across the table from each other and wondered whether we married the right person. We have never grown disillusioned with our marriage. And we have never had our hopes dashed to pieces because our expectations were too high. Are we merely an exception to the rule? Are we simply fortunate to have missed out on the mediocrity that seems to visit every other married couple? Absolutely not. Eric and I believe that victorious, beautiful Christian marriages are in the grasp of everyone who invites Jesus to be the centerpiece of their love story.
Posted on: Mon, 14 Apr 2014 03:14:56 +0000