Having been married, only three month’s, Ive recently come to the conclusion that marriage isnt for me. the more I debated, the more I was filled with a paralyzing fear. Was I ready? Was I making the right choice? Was tanya the right person to marry? Would she make me happy? Then, one fateful night, I shared these thoughts and concerns with a friend of mine. He said honestly told me “marriage isnt for you. You dont marry to make yourself happy, you marry to make someone else happy. More than that, your marriage isnt for yourself, youre marrying for a family. Not just for the in-laws and all of that nonsense, but for your future children. Who do you want to help you raise them? Who do you want to influence them? Marriage isnt for you. Its not about you. Marriage is about the person your marrying. This took months to sink in, but I soon realized it was true. I wanted to make her happy; to see her smile every day, to make her laugh every day. I wanted to be a part of her family, And thinking back on all the times I had seen her play with her nieces, I knew that she was the one with whom I wanted to build our own family. So, No, a true marriage (and true love) is never about you. Its about the person you love--their wants, their needs, their hopes, and their dreams. Selfishness demands, Whats in it for me? while Love asks, What can I give? Truly, love and marriage isnt for you. Its for others. If you agree repost marriage isn’t for me! -Jay
Posted on: Tue, 05 Nov 2013 20:19:08 +0000
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