Help Is On the Way!... Why is it when I say, I was thinking, that some people say, Now thats dangerous? While I will admit that I have a tendency to ping from one thing to the next and plan more for a day than a team of over-achievers can sometimes accomplish, I dont see any imminent danger in it! There are many things that I am still learning to come to grips with in my life; perhaps sometimes it seems to others plugging into the GPS of my brain that the satellite has surely went off course! I have always been a fixer, a goal setter, an over-achiever, a passionate seeker of knowledge, and a get up and do it-er. I am definitely more of a hands on person than a watcher which is not bad but leads to bouts of self doubt and an over developed need to be validated by what you do to feel a sense of value and worth. However in recent times (last week) I have been having some V-8 moments! Like, I dont have to be everything to everyone! I just need to be who God called me to be to those He has called me to. It is not in what I can do for a person or even solve for a person that I find my worth, it is in being at peace with who God has made me. I dont always have to take on the responsibilities that others shirk just because they need done. Sometimes we delay and deform peoples development because we take away their opportunity to fill a need out of our frustration and impatience. I am learning that sometimes the best help we can give someone is to step back and let them realize their need for help. Instead we usually jump head first into helping them before that revelation has come to them. Then we get hurt, mad, frustrated, and offended because they bulk at our help. We are to influence everyone we come in contact with for the good . We are to show them the love of Christ by sharing His attributes with them, BUT even Christ didnt do everything for them. He showed them the way, but they had to walk in it. Too often we find ourselves burnt out and weary because we are trying to do what we are not called to do. We are to show them the path not carry them on it. Its time we put some people and situations down and let them walk on their own, if we dont it will stunt their growth and impair their ability to discern when they need help. I loved carrying my son and my daughter on my hip when they were little, but as soon as they could toddle around it was even more fun to see them fine tune their walking skills. I would have them walk for as long as they could holding their hand to steady them, then when they got too tired and asked to be picked up I would gather them up for a while. If I would have never let them attempt the walk though, they would not have known what strength was or how to ask for help when really needed it. Instead they would have just grown content to let me do all the work for them. I can tell ya there is no way Im gonna back pack my 240lb., 63, 20 year old boy now! I guess in essence what the Father has been teaching me is my rightful position and true calling, not what my perception of it was. I lived years frustrated, even resenting what I thought I was called to do because I had a misguided, flesh run idea of what that was. I realized that all I wanted to really do in my heart was getting misinterpreted and mistreated by people because I was misguided on how I was to perform that calling . They were simply responding to how I presented it. I challenge you to spend some time stepping back from anything or anyone that is draining the passion and zeal from you and ask yourself; Why am I letting this happen? Am I being driven by fear of rejection or lack of acceptance so I dont create proper boundaries? Do I place more value on what people think of me than what God thinks of me? Is the only way I can escape what I dont like about my life to be too involved in others lives? Do I fear loss more than I value who God designed me to be? If you dont answer these questions then all you will do is find yourself depleted, empty, and weary with life. I have found that the perception we have of ourselves must change before the reality of others can change. We sometimes trap those we want to help in a cycle of relentless negativity, never giving them a chance to develop their character because we are too concerned with feeling worth something ourselves. Help is only credible when we can step back and they can still stand. Then you have helped them and not hindered them. Then you can watch lasting results come from your investment instead of just feeling spent. You are fearfully and wonderfully made, it is time you embrace that, stop fearing man and fall in love with who God made you, He did!
Posted on: Thu, 23 Jan 2014 04:10:54 +0000
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