Heres another sister seeking advice from you awesome people. #Romeo After being in a 4-5 year relationship with my ex (wont go into details about the relationship because that would be telling a story of a lifetime) I decided to give online dating a go after being single for a year. Fortunately for me I didnt meet a catfish haha. I did, however, meet a handsome palagi man who is nothing like any other guy Ive been with. He loves the Samoan culture and claims Samoa as his home. Hes financially stable and pays for basically everything when we see each other (we live in different cities). He comes from a wealthy background, works for a big company so he travels a lot as well within the country and overseas. I think I am out of my depth. I am absolutely overwhelmed as to why a man like him would even want to spend time with me. I think his ex girlfriends used him for his money. I dont think hes ever experienced true genuine love. Im not talking about being IN love, but the mere fact that a woman is capable of caring about him. I remember the first time he told me to look online at this particular website for a watch (he loves his watches), he wanted to buy one for me. I said no straight away, told him I dont want any presents from him. He was speechless. I cant read him at times, Ive had to work really hard to get him to open up to me about certain things. But the more I learn about him, the more I fall for him. He doesnt know this of course because I dont want to ruin what we have by making him put a label to it. You see, weve been seeing each other for about a year now, I know were never going to be official because neither of us want to leave our home city. My career and my daughter is whats keeping me here. He is the same. My mind is saying I need to end it with him because its doing my head in missing him and all. But my heart is so weak for him. I tried to end it before, told him to leave me alone and he did. For a good week. Until one day he texted and said I cant do it. I tried to respect your wishes but I cant do it. Im not strong enough. I miss you I gave in, and we both decided that were old enough to understand what our situation is. But unfortunately, my priority is my daughter and I could never uproot her and move to a big city just to make myself happy. She has a good foundation here in our hometown and I feel selfish for even thinking about it. I would never ask him to do the same. I think I know what I have to do but I need confirmation from people on my decision. Were seeing each other again in a few weeks, I even bought him a small present considering the fact that the only present he got from his exs were headaches lol. Im planning on telling him that we cant continue what were doing. Thinking about it is tearing me up so much I havent been able to sleep properly. I hardly text him back now because Im trying to wean myself off his very existence. Do you think Im making the right choice?
Posted on: Mon, 02 Dec 2013 16:47:21 +0000