How To Be Married Bulleted Notes For The Guys Who Didnt Read It All The 2nd to the last day! • Remember that you are the lucky one, not your spouse. You are not God’s gift to women. You should be God’s gift to one woman. Hopefully you are not Gods practical joke on one woman. • Put some real thought into your gifts and give them all the time, not just on holidays. The simplest of gifts given just because are better than the most extravagant of gifts just because you had to. • Don’t plan on things being 50/50. Plan on giving all you have to give. You don’t get to “take” anything. You can only receive what’s given. • Look ahead at the road in front of you with the same anticipation you did in the beginning. Tomorrow is every bit as important as your first date together. • If he/she put her heart into making you supper, eat it with a good attitude. I ate a brown plate of mystery mush once. You can man up and do what you need to do to save her heart. • People make mistakes…small mistakes and big mistakes. Forgive them rather than resent them. I don’t deserve Melody because of all the mistakes Ive made in my life. She’s here by choice and I am beyond thankful. • When you find something that you both enjoy doing, don’t leave those things in the past. Continue to enjoy them together. It’s still a great day to get lost on a dusty dirt road in the middle of nowhere. • Share with them ALL of who you are. It will deepen the bond that you share. Take them home with you and let them soak it in. • Dont spend more than you have coming in. Plan ahead. Dont borrow if you can help it at all. Give when you have extra. Save for tomorrow. If you don’t control your money, it will control your whole marriage. Being broke sucks. • Each of you will likely have different strengths. Don’t be afraid to let the stronger one take the lead, regardless of what is considered the traditional role. Melody can’t decorate. • Remember that your bond of marriage is really, really important. It will have an impact on people outside of just the two of you. Make your marriage a priority. • Pay attention to your spouse’s needs and be willing to sacrifice to meet them. Pretty simple rule to understand, REALLY tough to follow through on. • Long-term, healthy relationships often allow for each to spend some time on their own. You can kill a relationship by smothering it just as fast as you can by ignoring it. Maybe faster. • Intimacy is not achieved simply by locking the door and shutting off the lights. It’s nurtured throughout the day…day in and day out. Learn to wash the dishes. And not only should you put the toilet lid down, clean the bathroom for her. Its probably not her aim thats off. • Spend as much of your life together laughing and smiling. You will never regret the time youve spent doing this. My whole world is brighter when Mel can’t catch her breath from laughing. Tomorrow...My 25th Anniversary Letter to Melody Thanks to all of you who followed this for me. My next step is to refine it all and get it into a book format for Melody to have and keep. :-) Scot
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