I am continually saddened by the way I see people misunderstand and misidentify Love in romantic situations. So many people believe that when we meet and start to enjoy the company of another that this exciting portion ( infatuation ) of the development of Love is what its all about. That when this feeling ( infatuation ) starts to lessen, and it always does, that we have fallen out of Love. This is in no way true. The problem is the self-centeredness of this misunderstanding. Love on any level is a selfless experience. Love is not about what we get or what the other person does for us. it is all about what we bring to the relationship. Especially where romantic expression is concerned. Love grows and is nurtured by selfless acts. It is a decision. We are not victims of Love gone bad when things dont work out in a romantic situation. Love, in fact, is more likely victim of another persons self-centered demands. Infatuation is all about what I feel. Love is all about how I make the other person feel. When I focus on the selfless expressions of Love that Ive learned to practice I am then able to feel Love not only for myself but more over for the other person. Look for a moment at the phrase labor of Love. Its a very telling phrase. It tells the truth. There are times when being in and building Love is a laborious experience. But it always pays off. Even if the other doesnt respond in the manner we had hoped. The payoff is in the way we feel about ourselves for having worked so hard at Loving another. This experience builds self-esteem. The ability to Love yourself.
Posted on: Thu, 17 Jul 2014 16:09:53 +0000
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