I believe very strongly that this is a message that should be more out there and many people should see this. The one thing I strongly dislike about the way it is done, is, that the voices used for telling the sentences we men grow up with, are exclusively male. It implies that men raise men in this image which I personally very much disagree with. What I am writing now is completely my very personal opinion and I truly have no claim, that my perception of things are more true than any other. It is solely build on my experience and my history and the way I look at things with the tools of perception I was given. I was raised by my mother and older sister and I too grew up with many of those guidelines. Underlying was the message, that i am the man of the household and had to behave in a certain way. Protecting my mother and be strong for her and not let her see my pain and weakness was the one I was unable to break and it still is hard work to fight this programming. Wether we use those words or have some sort of expectations in the male children, makes no difference. Even the type of man a woman subconsciously desires and chooses as a partner or a man glorifies, have a huge impact on their children. It seems to me that many have changed their outlook on how girls should be and even in society things do change slowly in that case. When it comes to boys, this still seems far away. Just look at how things are in movies and TV shows. Maybe we can all take a moment to look deep within and see what we truly expect of the boys and men around us or what impresses us in the movie characters we see. somehow I think that some of those sentences portrayed in this film are still there guiding us from deep within. So telling a man that he should show his feelings and be more emotional, can be plain cruel. You have no idea what programming he was brought up with. And please never think that a man does not have the whole range of emotions that any human being has, instead ask yourself if you have just been programmed to recognize feelings if presented in a certain way and it might just be you who is not sensitive enough to see them in the men and boys around you. I would just like to remind us that in most cases it is the mothers who influence our emotional upbringing in the early years..... This got a lot more personal than intended but it apparently needed to come out.
Posted on: Tue, 25 Mar 2014 11:43:57 +0000
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