I have been thinking a lot lately as my marriage begins to fail before me, about the mistakes I have made against myself in life it is what it is, I take it as I made them so my children wont have to, really I am fine. In the wake of this national crisis, I cant help but to think about all of these children that are scattered about. When I married my first husband, I thought we would be together forever, he was my first and my 1st two children are his. Eight years later I met a man who I thought loved me, and he did it was just too late when he realized he did and I was gone (I dont look backwards) I had another child by this man. Although we are not together and he gets on my last he is very active in his daughters life and I am sure he would protect her with his life (some may say they would but know they wont). Then I marry a man who I thought again I would be with for the rest of my life and I am now again pregnant, with his child, seven years after the last. Life surly took me down a road I never expected for myself. I never wanted multiple bds but the point is that the men in my life like those that arent in many womens lives werent willing to put away their immature ways to keep their family together and here we have the babymomma and babydaddy epidemic amongst our nation of people. A nation of people who used to pride themselves in family solidarity. It was how we survived now lack of it is how we are dying. Seems we dont really care about much of anything that has substance. Point is this young folks, this is not the life that you want to have. Make sure that you and your partner is on the same page, this may be hard to do and sometimes impossible because some people are just in it for their own benefit. If that is the case, gt out asap, but if it isnt take the time to make it work if it is worth it. You will find that most of the time it is worth it if you are dealing with a real man or woman. Research your mates family and friends, ask questions, if he or she comes from some shit RUNNNNNN. DONT GET MIXED UP IN THAT KIND OF MESS!!! Make sure that before you get into having children that you have yourself together so if things dont go right you wont be left holding any bags and if you are left holding the bag you will be ok holding it. Make sure you are ok first this means secure your own future, when you meet that man or woman you two should both come to the table with what you have to offer and if it works you both can build from that. Try to always bring something to the table besides baggage. Get your education, travel, see some stuff, dont become stuck in any situation and need someone else to throw you a lifeline because no matter how many mfs you will throw a lifeline to, when you need one in return wont nobody have one (so they say), they will let you sink and that goes for your best of friends too, yeah they will let your ass sink trust me. That reminds me, be your own best friend, dont give too much and take even less and if someone gives you anything pay for it or offer some from of barter so people cant ever say you took without giving something in return. Be good to yourself, dont beat yourself up when it doesnt work, keep it moving take the lesson and learn from it. This is for all my young men and women coming up in the struggle. You all must do better than my generation did, we failed you tremendously so now you all have to fill the gap and take over. I pray you all the strength of the ancestors to build a better future for you and your children and theirs. If you are waiting on the 28-68 crowd you gonna miss your chance because that group is lost. You can only learn what NOT to do from this group. Let me say this though, there is always a lesson to be learned from the woman who is the 1st teacher. Look to the strong ones for advise and you will know them by their works and their struggle. Pay attention to them, they are not scarce but some will seem together but wont be listen to their words and watch their lifestyles you will know quickly who is who. Also the 80 and up generation of women are also a great source. Be well young men and women and do well. Those of us who give a damn pass the torch to you. Ase.
Posted on: Sun, 07 Dec 2014 06:30:51 +0000
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