I have something that has been bothering me, and something I want to get off my chest: Something I am seeing a lot of lately is young people getting into a long-term commitment simply because they want to get out of where they are at present. When I have tried this myself it has not worked at all. And nobody else I know has had this work for them either. Say you are a young lady who sees a young man as the “knight in shining armor” that will sweep you off your feet and “take you away from all this” to a “Camelot” way of life. To many of these young people who I observe are reasonably smart I’d say,”Why in hell are YOU not providing this for YOURSELF! I feel this is a fair question; to give yourself up to someone else to manage you, and provide for you is an act that indicates a total disrespect for yourself. To say nothing of disrespect for the suitor whose testosterone has pushed them to make such grandiose promises. He, in turn, also exhibits a complete disrespect for you in urging you to take such an offer, and finds out that it is also to himself in the end for having made such an offer. Building a relationship on the basis of mutual disrespect under the ostensible guise of mutual desire is tantamount to erecting a modern office building on a pile of manure. And such thinking will also very likely have the underpinnings of inferior grade materials as well. The mad and ecstatic elation over getting away with this soon erodes into a nightmare of nothing to show for such drastic action. I got hooked in this exact way myself, and at an age when I certainly should be old enough to know better. It depleted me, and hurt me far more deeply than any of you could ever imagine. And I only have myself to blame for letting it happen to me. I won’t even go into what can happen if progeny gets involved out of no fault of their own…I am happy to say I never let it get that far… Make ding dang sure you are prepared and COMPLETELY capable of providing for yourself in survival and happiness FIRST! And before you may be tempted to seek a relationship to provide such as an alternative instead. Hopefully some of the smarter of you will heed this, and profit at my expense… While others in your life may CONTRIBUTE to your own happiness, your own UNCONDITIONAL happiness is always strictly of your own doing—and cannot be dependent on others. Again: This is a lesson that I learned hard. And painfully… If you look at the verdant grass from the other side of the fence, you are looking at far too oblique an angle to see the true thinness of it, and the grubs that lurk between the blades….
Posted on: Sat, 08 Jun 2013 18:09:23 +0000
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