I really love this. Had to share :) Whether you feel in love or out of love is directly proportional to whether your mind is at peace or filled with negativity. A happy mind leads to a happy marriage. An unsettled mind leads to the opposite. The only person who can make you happy: you. You might think you need a lot to be happy. In reality, you probably need a lot less than you think. Before any confrontation, focus on your breathing until your mind has settled. Then fill your heart with love. Only then is it safe to start talking. Sometimes you’ll get what you want. Sometimes you won’t. It’s possible to be happy with either result. The distance between “I can’t stand being married to you” and “I love you” can be as wide or as narrow as you decide to make it. Every day your spouse is kind. Every day your spouse also fails to meet expectations. If you mentally bold and underline the former and shrink the font size of the latter, your married life will be happier. You choose what you notice. Choose to notice kindness. In the beginning, a warm gooey feeling at your heart leads you act in love. Later mature love is a decision, an action, and a deliberate state of mind that intertwine to create a warm, gooey feeling. Whenever you think you have it hard, consider the billions of people who have it much worse. Develop compassion for them and sincerely wish that you could lift their suffering. Soon your problems won’t seem as massive. Anger is a moment of temporary insanity that feels trillions of years long and causes you to hallucinate an evil psychopath who sleeps in your bed. Everyone wants wisdom, but the road to wisdom travels through towns called love, patience, and mental clarity. At the end of your life, most of the things you are fighting about now probably won’t seem important at all. Whenever you hear yourself saying, “It’s the principle of the matter,” you’ve already lost the argument. Two hundred years from now, the principle of the matter won’t matter anymore. We read intentions into the minds of most of the people around us, including our spouses. Humans read minds less accurately than meteorologists forecast the weather. Whatever you think he is thinking, you are probably wrong. Assume the best and you’ll experience the best. You can always give more. Blaming someone else rarely, if ever, gets something fixed. You can spend your time complaining or you can spend your time meditating. Both require the same amount of effort, but the latter is a lot more enjoyable than the former.
Posted on: Wed, 25 Sep 2013 22:38:59 +0000
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