If you know someone in, or who has been in, an abusive relationship please dont judge them for it. The situation is way more complicated than you can imagine if youve never had it happen to you. If you want to be supportive & help someone in, or recovering, from an abusive relationship this article is a very important read: * Never make the victim feel they are responsible for their own abuse. By saying things like: I would never have stayed, I would have seen he was an asshole a mile off, he was attracted to your co-dependency, etc No one knows what it is like to be manipulated by a narcissist unless they have been there. -Narcissists are attracted to strong, competent, self sufficient women with a strong sense of responsibility and moral fiber. What woman wouldn’t want to be described in those terms? The last thing a narcissist wants is someone needy or someone any one could have, she has to be a “trophy” and confident enough to keep his narcissistic supply coming. Plus the more self sufficient and confident she is the more determined the narcissist will be to “break” her, if he can make her totally dependent on him it is the ultimate in NS.
Posted on: Sat, 03 Jan 2015 00:04:40 +0000