Im not sure if anyone has been following the incident involving Ray & Janay Rice of the Baltimore Ravens...to summarise Ray beat his wife unconscious in an elevator & it was captured on film. Ray Rice has now been fired from the Ravens & Janay has released a statement that is truly heartbreaking for a lot of reasons; I woke up this morning feeling like I had a horrible nightmare, feeling like Im mourning the death of my closest friend. But to have to accept the fact that its reality is a nightmare in itself. No one knows the pain that the media & unwanted options from the public has caused my family. To make us relive a moment in our lives that we regret every day is a horrible thing. To take something away from the man I love that he has worked his ass off for all his life just to gain ratings is a horrific [sic]. THIS IS OUR LIFE! What dont you all get. If your intentions were to hurt us, embarrass us, make us feel alone, take all happiness away, youve succeeded on so many levels. Just know we will continue to grow & show the world what real love is! Ravens nation we love you! It’s sad because we have all heard this before–at least those of us who have tried to help someone in an abusive relationship. It’s sad because she should not feel embarrassed. Because the only one that should feel embarrassed for knocking Janay Rice unconscious is Ray Rice. I want Janay Rice to know that it is not her and Ray Rice against the world. I don’t want her to feel isolated. The hardest part of all of this is that we all know he is likely taking this out on her, and making her feel like the loss of his career is her fault rather than his own. Like every woman in the country right now, I want to hold her hand and tell her that this is not her fault, that him hurting her was not her fault, that breaking off a relationship with an abuser does not mean she failed, that yes, she will be loved again by someone who would never, ever do that to her. There is no roadmap for helping women out of these situations. I know that judging them for staying can make it worse, can make them feel like they have to prove a point (“show the world what real love is!”), can make them feel like the people around them have lost respect for them, which only makes the abusers hold on them stronger. For those of us who have never been in that situation personally, it’s hard to understand why anyone would stay in an abusive relationship–nevermind defend their abuser. Last night, the hashtag #WhyIStayed erupted on Twitter. Created by Beverly Gooden, the tag allowed women to explain the reasons they stayed in abusive relationships. It’s really worth a read if you have the time. *Source - Death & Taxes Mag.
Posted on: Tue, 09 Sep 2014 22:08:36 +0000
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