Im so sorry youre feeling so rejected. The holidays are so hard. Ive had to make a lot of hard choices too, about who I can and cant spend time with, and thus which events I can and cant attend. The most helpful thing Ive recently learned is to just focus on controlling myself. I cant make anyone else think, feel or do what I want them to. If I try, Ill just cause more misery for myself. And Im done with extra misery, for today. So, I let people who dont understand continue to not understand, I wish them well, and then go do what brings me the most peace and joy on the holidays. For me, for today, that means being alone (and with my HP and friends) rather than with unsafe family. Because I only have the options of 1) the family situation I cant change and 2) doing my own thing I can control. There is no option 3) changing the family. Because option 3) is really option 3) miserably fighting, accomplishing nothing, and feeling worthless and unloved. Ive wasted too many years on that. But thats just my experience with this (please take what you like and leave the rest). Be gentle with yourself and (again, take only what you like) know that other peoples behaviors prove nothing about your worth. Youre lovable and worthwhile even if no one ever acts that way. Blessings ~ Deirdre
Posted on: Sun, 10 Nov 2013 19:43:43 +0000
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