In time, its not only become a habit, but its become fuel to make other people feel good. Little do people realize that when throwing out a rude remark or an insult, theyre projecting how distressed they feel at that moment. Its kind of like putting in an extra amount of effort to throw something really heavy at somebody else, when you could just drop it off to the side. Its also a lot less violent. Just remember, that distressed heavy burdening feeling came from somewhere inside of you in the first place. Theres a ridiculous amount of ways you can look at this. Heres one I just thought of: youve got a lot of potatoes, okay? Well, say you decide to cook those potatoes into French fries. Alright, now think back at when you would play Hot potato. The point of the game was to keep throwing around the object until the time was up or a song was stopped, and the person who still had the object in their hands was stuck with it, and as a result eliminated. So lets say these French fries are your thoughts, your judgements and opinions. If you take them out of the oven while theyre still cooking, yeah theyre going to be hot as $%& and youre gonna hot potato the life out of those French fries right away. If you act or speak on impulse, often these actions or words come out in a way they werent intended, or worse, in an offensive way that they were intended. Now lets say you had someone beside you when you threw these French fries. They dont want your damn hot undercooked French fries, okay? Its pretty straight forward. Do you honestly think somebody wants to be humiliated, embarrassed, insulted or criticized? That should be the least of anybodys problems. But you see, those French fries came from you in the first place. Youre the one who cooked them in first place and took them out impulsively, and even more ridiculously, threw them at somebody else! Yeah, it is entirely your own fault and seems rather silly now, doesnt it? Who cares if they asked for it or deserved it, because they didnt make you think a certain way or force you to do anything: you made that decision. It is said you can only see within others what you see within yourself. So before you go ahead throwing around words, thoughts or French fries, remember they came from you. And that maybe youre the one who needs to learn how to cook French fries properly. Now see how many words it took to explain something negative? You could have just left the French fries in the oven to finish cooking, and then take appropriate action once theyre cooled off. Or better yet, flipped them halfway. Ah, yes you can flip your thoughts as well. You also have that choice. Now if you really want to spread some love, you could have made it into a poutine and shared it with your friend. Just as you can turn criticism towards somebody else into something beautiful, such as constructive criticism, a suggestion, a solution, a compliment, anything really.
Posted on: Thu, 28 Nov 2013 16:43:31 +0000
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