It strikes me whenever I hear ladies say “I wanna make sure I’m not a liability to my husband, I am working hard so I’ll contribute my share of finance into the family, this will make him respect and value me in the house”. As much as I’ll agree it’s good to be financially independent, I think something sounds wrong here. How come it is that value that compromises your Man’s leadership you wanna concentrate on? Help your husband build his sense of control as the head of the house, don’t threaten it. I believe so much in the strength of a woman, so so much. I believe and have seen women shake the world by shaking their husbands, I have read in history how mighty men submitted to their woman’s ideals totally, I have read how a Samson in the Bible could get so into a woman that he gave himself away on a platter of Gold even as Delilah repeatedly showed her intentions. I have read about Queen of Sheba and Solomon, being the richest and wisest King, Uncle Solo’ still fell head over heels forgetting he had some 700 concubines lurking in his backyard (who maybe were hoping to be financially contributive to get Solomon’s attention I think), I have read about the great Julius Caesar whose lust and Love for Cleopatra could not be quantified. I have read what got John the Baptist beheaded; he got on the wrong side of a woman in control. I wish I was an historian; I sure would have made the list endless. Even the 1st Man Adam took the apple not because eve bought it with her money, He Loved, respected, adored and obeyed his wife, that is what I call a woman. Women are so strong, possessing lots of abilities to hold a man in charms, but no, our Ladies now don’t wanna have those virtues that make a man feel good to have you in his house, hence my theory; Women have lost the ability to contribute their God given quota to the home, or better still; they don’t even know their quota anymore, and they struggle for a man’s respect by encroaching on his own quota. Yes! I remember growing up with my folks, I don’t remember mum ever having a paid job, but I remember barging in on them some mornings and I catch them analyzing popsy’s pay pack. My mom is the best thing that guy has, he hardly can make a decision without her consent. Popsy is addressing us, and we can feel momsy all over his speech. You will always catch him stealing looks at mom for approbation that he’s on point, or sometimes that looks like a “can I continue dear?” Kind of look and you’ll spot her smile approvingly “you can go on”, but if it’s a frown, we’ll hear Popsy go “ well, Mommy should have something to say…. See, take it or leave it, God’s ordination for Man is to be the Head, his commission is to be the Bread Winner, his charge is to take care of his wife, respect and value her, Control is his birthright. Help him achieve his divine ordination and calling, he cherishes it more than your paying the child’s school fees. The moment you threaten any of these his major roles, you will not know that you are subtly threatening his captainship. Lately, civilization and the 21st century revolutionary style seems to have garnished this evolved feminine ideologies, and your husband seems to have bought into it abi? Let me shock you, except if you own a man that is less a man (better for you eih!), the day he gets empowered, he will ask back his captainship badge, and will struggle to ascend back his position. I’m sorry, but it is Nature, it is not pride, it’s the way Man is wired. Let me even ask, oh! You wanna have a say in the home by buying some equity with financial contribution, What if you get married to a man and after you get in, God blesses him so much and he turns a multi-billionaire? Are you still gonna count on your equity strategy? Or rather, you can never get married to a multi-billionaire? Cos you will be needing some billions to have a stake In the home o. Girls, come off it, do you think Mitchelle Obama buys groceries with her money? News Flash! She’s gat more virtues in quota to the home than to be relevant by bread-winning for the family. I once heard a gist about the Obamas having lunch at an exquisite restaurant and the chef turned out to be Mitchelle’s Ex, Feeling cool with himself Obama put it to her “ if you had married him, you would have been the wife of a chef” she answerd, No! If I had married him, He would have been the President of America. That is Virtue! Girls, help your man build his sense of control and domination of his environment, he’ll cherish you. Give him warmth and succor in the face of Life’s battle, you’ll forever be his queen. Be his confidant, his wise counsel, his playmate, his best friend, his only ally, be a woman of virtues, not a financial one. Contribute to his mental and psychological attainments, he’ll depend on you for life. Be an inseparable part of him, he’ll by himself push you to career attainments, he’ll move the world to see you get your dreams. Do you think Hillary Clinton needed to be Governor to pay the bills, Bill supported her so well because he needed to see her achieve her dreams too, as she had helped in achieving his. Don’t you guys get it, you girls have the ability to eat your cake and still have it, don’t shortchange yourself. Don’t attempt to rob your man of his God’s given commission to rule and dominate, he will love you better, value and respect you the more when you help him achieve and attain. Bible says “God made man in his image and likeness” we are like our creator; we don’t ever negotiate our rulership. At the pace this ideology is going, in a century from now, I fear all wife virtues would have gone untraceable, women wont even know the strength that lies in their roles as wifes again, I am scared that all virtues that make a real wife would be lost. A man needs a wife, not another business partner, a wife’s role is greather than finances, her strength is awesome, she can change the world by changing a man, she can move even the heavens with her man, she can rule the world from her bedroom. Don’t wait till your husband becomes so financially independent and doesn’t need your contribution anymore before you learn that you could have had him forever, if you knew your true role, you will be the one to set the pace for him, then he will rule…God Help You all
Posted on: Sun, 07 Dec 2014 09:40:05 +0000
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