Ive got to know a lot of kiddos over the last couple years, most of them have some pretty good heads on their shoulders when they wants to be but I have to honestly say a lot of them are a lot like a lot of us when we were their age. Before anybody starts lambasting me let me finish what Im saying please. A lot of us thought we were on top of the world, we knew how life should be and we all knew there was something missing. Weather we come from a home that there was no loving (fill in the blanks) a home that laid down the ground rules were there was no room for us to breathe or no matter how hard we tried, everything we did was labeled as shitty! We knew everything, our parents were the enemy and those who gave us what we felt we were missing were our everything! We can all speak freely here because most of us are coming from experience, our own tragedies/storys of thinking we knew everything only to wake up one day and find out we knew nothing. I as a young man am guilty of dating older women, as well as an older man dating younger. Reflecting on my past the only thing I can say, when I was younger dating older it was like being older and when I dated younger it was like being young again. If that makes any sense? Im not proud of my past but I think I learned a few things from my mistakes! These are the very things I try to address when talking to all my kiddos, friends and those who confide in me. In the last 20 or so years Ive notice a constant trend where A. children dont listen to their parents B. they run to the other divorced parent when they dont get their way C. they make their parents out to be monsters because theyre not getting their way D. the legal system has taken a lot of our rights as parents away... In the last 5 years I have noticed A. parents allowing their teenage children to have sleepovers with the boyfriend/girlfriends B. more parents nowadays are not with the biological fathers/mothers so their trying to be the better/coolest or more hip of the two C. most divorced parents are too preoccupied with our new lives/families that they even notice or address things D. most parents dont follow up to make sure their kids are actually where they say they are going... I love all my kiddos and the kiddos that come with them over on weekends. But there have been quite a few times they brought some strays/friends along where I never got to meet or even talk to the parents to make sure were all on the same page on just wear their kids were going for the weekend. As much as a mother who is trying to do right by her children and a father whos trying to instill moral values? It seems the message is getting scrambled up along the way on so many levels and in so many kiddos around me these days! I blame it on a lot of things, the legal system, our poor choices or our children just following in our own footsteps. But I dont blame the children! They are only doing what is showed to be okay by so many around us these days. And that is why so many are dating older or have already had multiple partners in there barely teenage years, are throwing their lives away fighting their parents every step of the way and nevertheless making some of the very same mistakes that we made. I do believe in some part of the philosophy it takes a village but I also believe in that village everybody should be somewhat on the same page. Everyone should be able to point out the slackers as well as the control freak, tell it like it is and not act like the children they are claiming to want to save. Im not writing this to offend anyone, piss anyone off or point out who has or who hasnt somehow lost their way. Im writing this because I have watched so many children trying to grow up way too fast, talked to so many parents who just dont know what to do as well as some parents and kiddos who just really leave me dazed and confused for way to long now. Im done venting...
Posted on: Tue, 28 Jan 2014 00:41:07 +0000
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