MOTHER TELLS SONS WIFE TO GET LOST DURING VISIT By Abigail Van Buren 11 hours ago Dear Abby DEAR ABBY: I recently took my children to spend a week with my mother-in-law, Bea. Three days after we arrived, my husband flew in to join us. The next day, Bea handed me a hotel room key and told me to take as many of the children as I wanted, but I could not take my husband because she never gets to spend time with him! I told Bea I was offended, and that I should not have been invited if it wasnt a family trip. As I was packing to leave, my mother-in-law left and spent the rest of our visit in the hotel herself while my family and I stayed at her home. My husband has now told me that I will not be allowed to visit her again, and when she visits us next, it will be just him and the kids because I make his mother uncomfortable. Must I stay away as he says, or should I pursue keeping myself included when they visit my mother-in-law? -- MOM OF FOUR IN MARYLAND DEAR MOM OF FOUR: Did this happen out of the blue, or have you always had a strained relationship with your husbands mother? (Im guessing its the latter.) If so, why? If the genesis of this is something you have said or done, and you cant mend fences, then perhaps it would be better if you made other plans while Bea visits. If it isnt, then face it: You married a mamas boy, and for that you have my sympathy. Were I in your shoes, rather than inflict my presence on Queen Bea, Id grab the chance to treat myself to a well-earned vacation when the lady is in town -- and ditto when your husband and the kids go to visit Granny. Check into a spa and let yourself have a good time! DEAR ABBY: Im a 13-year old boy who loves to play baseball and football. Because of my hard work and dedication over the years, along with the help of my coaches and my dad, Im pretty good at both sports. The issue is, my mom does not support me and repeatedly tells me Im not good at either one. When she says it, it cuts my heart out. My parents have been divorced since I was 2, and Dad has always done everything for me. Even though he gives me encouragement, it still stings when Mom tells me Im not good. She constantly says negative and bad things about my dad that I know are not true, but when I defend him she goes crazy with rage. What can I do to get her to stop being so negative? -- VERY DISCOURAGED IN TEXAS DEAR VERY DISCOURAGED: Your letter made me sad because there is nothing you can do to make your mother change her attitude. She appears to be an angry and unhappy person, who may perceive your closeness with your father as a threat to her. What you can do is stop placing so much importance on receiving her approval. If your coach thinks youre doing well, and these sports bring you a sense of closeness with your father, then you should enjoy them for those reasons. Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069. Abby shares more than 100 of her favorite recipes in two booklets: Abbys Favorite Recipes and More Favorite Recipes by Dear Abby. Send your name and mailing address, plus check or money order for $14 (U.S. funds) to: Dear Abby, Cookbooklet Set, P.O. Box 447, Mount Morris, IL 61054-0447. (Shipping and handling are included in the price.)
Posted on: Sun, 29 Jun 2014 17:12:16 +0000
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