My Story I decided to go to Lebanon for a holiday and maybe get married at the same time. I met this man at the hotel i was staying at in Lebanon. He was a friend of a relative. He introduced me to his daughter, she was 9 years younger then me so i was worried about maturity and if she was ready. After meeting her a couple of times, she was dressed modestly (hijab), she seemed to look down and be shy and quiet, she prayed etc. After getting to know eachother for a month, we decided to get married. I thought to myself, there actually giving there daughter to a stranger from the other side of the world.... I didnt think much of it but thought maybe they liked me. They wanted to make a big wedding party, so to keep them happy i agreed and invited 300 guests....in which i received no gifts at all..... It was mostly her family, relatives, friends as most of mine were in Australia. I got her the gold and jewelry, like every other girl gets no big deal. Did her application for spouse visa, 4-5mths later, she was approved, i paid for ticket and she came to a unit i was renting, fully furnished and everything paid for. I taught her english, put her on courses, taught her how to drive, got her a car and phone etc. I supported her emotionally and financially the whole time. We had our first child hamza named after my dad. This was the most amazing feeling to be a dad. We had our second yusuf and he was born on my birthday, which i felt was a present from Allah to me....I was with her through the births and always cared and worried about her. I then paid for 2 holidays a couple of years apart to Lebanon for her to see her family and parents. After a couple of years, i felt she was too busy and interested in her phone then us, it was like she was in another world. My mum was finding it hard to pay off her unit repayments so she asked us if we wanted to buy a house together and both of us agreed. After looking around, i decided we would buy a land with my mums equity from selling her unit and build a custom house from scratch and i would take out the loan and pay it off. Im sure you are all aware of the stress one goes through to get a house built correctly and the time, money and effort. It was built within a year and we all moved in. She then brought her brother from overseas as a holiday visa and I treated him as a brother and let him stay with us for 1.5 months. This holiday visa... turned into a refuge visa (unlawfully some how) and i told her, he cant live here always.... He eventually moved out. I wasnt perfect, i would yell and get frustrated at her, especially after a long day at work. I wouldnt always pray. I would watch movies to get my mind off things. Most arguments were about her being on the phone and regarding the kids. These were major things like her riding off 2 cars while the kids were in the car (because of texting.... ran red light), not looking after the kids appropriately (son swallows $2 coin) in front of her. She liked socializing alot more then me, i liked staying at home more. We were together 6 years. She just got her citizenship (which i organized). We were invited to this so called dinner which one of her relatives bought tickets to, without asking me first, i didnt even receive the tickets or know what it was exactly, we had just had a newborn yusuf and didnt really wanna take him to this so called dinner, i dont like things to be forced upon me, so i said no were not going.... Maybe that wasnt the right decision but i was upset at the time. Then her brother rings me and tells me he is taking her with the kids to this dinner. So because he goes against my leadership and decision as a dad/husband we have a fall out and i hang up on him. That makes me not want to go even more now. He isnt exactly the best brother to have, he was immature and i started to doubt if i was being told the truth here, so I told my wife the kids and i arent going, you can go if you like but it will upset me. She didnt end up going. We had an argument after a family BBQ, in which the same topic was brought up, about this so called dinner that i never received tickets to, i said some nasty words to my wife in which i regret, but she reacted in such a way that shocked me, (what happen to repel evil with good) she threw a plate of salad at me and then a pino clean bottle as hard as she could at me and i pushed her away, i have never slapped punched or kicked her ever and Allah is my witness. She is the mother of my kids, my wife and a woman that i loved, i have morals and fear Allah. That night i slept in my sons bed. I got up in the morning and went to work. While i was at work my mum calls me and tells me your wife is packing things secretly and hiding them in the garage, i think shes going to leave with the kids. She walked to a park earlier while i was at work and called the police and made false allegations of abuse. By the time i got home from work, my wife was gone with the kids (thats transgressing.... Waiting period? Mediating? Seeing qualified leader? Divorce laws?) and the police arrested me and took me to the station. The police officers were decent, they didnt hand cuff me. They asked me would you like to do an electronic interview, i said yes. I have this on cd. She told them i had hit her in the face several times.... Over 11 to be exact. I asked the officer, if i hit her 11 times in the face wouldnt there be a red mark or something? He said we couldnt see anything, looked normal...I have her statement with me. I was shocked, imagine a wife you loved and trusted to have 2 kids with tells a lie like that about her husband. She told them i hit her because she wanted to go to her bros house at 11pm at night... And i didnt let her...Thats ungratefulness and lying. After the electronic interview the police officers dropped the charges and told me to go home. Off the record one officer told me, he could tell she wasnt genuine and that she was lying. Also have the transcript. She then tried to make an AVO against me, this also failed. The lady judge stated there is not even probability that what my wife stated is true. She had 2 different stories which didnt make sense. Truth remains, falsehood diminishes. I also have copies of the statements. Her dad instead of being mature about it, threatens me and tells me he is going to make mince meat out of me.... I dont think thats halal lol She was granted womans refuge to stay at, you only get granted this if you have an AVO in place in which she had an interim one which is procedure until it could be heard in court and it was dropped when it was.... Even though she could of stayed with relatives or at her bros. Alot of people tried to mediate (mediate with family members is in quran) and talk sense into her but she refused to listen. She didnt allow the kids to see me or talk to me for over 3 months. (Using the kids against other parent is haram also in quran) Thats how immoral and selfish she was. After spending $30,000 in legal costs (looking after husbands wealth), she was forced by the judge to let the kids see there father every second weekend. Out of hatred she tries to dictate the time to a minimum the kids spend with me. She then tried to go for the house by putting a caveat on the property, the house was sold, and all debts were paid and there was nothing left for me and her ...... See how shaytaan deceives you with something that doesnt exist, is that protecting your husbands wealth? An incident occurred on a fathers day weekend, i went to pickup the kids after work, her brother had 2 thugs waiting for me, they attacked me and broke the windscreen of my car and i left without seeing the kids. In front of Allah, her brother ripped his own shirt and the 2 thugs left before police arrived. He lied to police and told them i attacked him and he broke the windscreen. Why ? Mental issues Citizenship Money Someone else Immaturity Only Allah knows why....
Posted on: Sun, 30 Mar 2014 13:10:51 +0000
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