People come and go in our lives. Sometimes we want some of those who go, to stay, and perhaps, we want another to go. It is hard when someone lets you go, but it happens. I think it is almost safe to say, it happens to everyone at some time in their life where they wish the other person wanted them, like they want the rejecting person. It can be agonizing, even feeling like you have marked some kind of death. I am learning that it someone wants to be in your life, they will find a way...if you have shown them you desire that. If they cannot or will not, hard as it may, let them gracefully go. The truth is, it is not often graceful to let people go, is it? Sometimes there is anger, fighting, and harsh words, all seeming to reinforce the broken road you are on and taking. It is good to learn how to minimize those hurts but sometimes, we dont. By watching how we leave someone, even someone we are parting with in difficult situations, we can leave with more grace for them and us. If they leave, dont let them take your self-respect. Sometimes, that, too, goes. When we are hurt, our responses are often less than gracious and good. They play out the circumstance, and sometimes we dont know how they will, yet, even our mistakes and frustrations may play out in ways to help the situation, just not always. So delicate are relationships, arent they? Here are three ways to leave but hold up: 1 - Give value to your own life. If you dont, value gone will be your value lost. If you value your life, as in respecting value, it may hurt to part, but you will not part with yourself, too. If you leave yourself, you leave a huge portion of the unresolved. This is important to have before you go into a relationship or if a relationship goes, you will have less to stand on. 2 - Make time your friend and use self-care wisely. You need time when a significant piece of your life falls out. You may think things should just move along, but they dont. Honor the time or it will catch up with you. Many people forge ahead because they feel they have to or should. You have to mourn what is lost or you will keep mourning. Find some time each day to mourn through what happened and what you learned. Too much positive when you lose someone you cared for is plain silly. It hurts. Admit it. 3. Keep in life. Have friends to talk to and tell them you need time and not judgment. Really, rule number one for a friend should be No judgment. Find a balance with mourning and doing. Keeping in life helps the routine continue and find new routines where the person played in it. Holing up and away from people can be risky business, if it is done for long. You need friends and people who see other sides. Its too easy to focus on one side when you hurt. Its too easy to shut out the world when we are in pain. Loving friends are a buffer and a balance for us.
Posted on: Sun, 20 Oct 2013 01:52:57 +0000
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