Revive The Habit Of Self-sufficiency - (By Standd (Nairaland Forum)) Hear her opininion; I used to listen to men whine about Nigerian women being gold-diggers and most times I dont blame the men. When an entire generation of women do not know the value of hard-work and working with ones hands to make ends meet, then there is a problem somewhere. Dear Naija woman, Theres no written law that men should buy you recharge cards, buy you sharwamah or take you shopping. Any man that choose to spend on you only does that because he has money to spend in the first place. And last I checked, the freedom to earn money isnt restricted to the male gender alone. We know how easy it is, to paint your face all day and then dress up to meet a man who will spend on you. But what I dont understand is how we all grew up believing that we can not make our own money. How? Why? Who told you that you cant work to take care of your needs. Pls, the good men I have met do not want intellectual and physical liabilities. What happened to the days when our MOTHERS worked hard to care for the family? Every time you wait for a man to credit your phone, buy your meals, change your wardrobe and cater to your every need.. Then, you have also given them the licence to talk down on you and treat you like a nonentity with nothing to offer. For those of you who think you can get whatever you want from men without lifting a finger to better your own life. All I can ask is, for how long? How long will you remain brain-dead and dependent. Get up and find something to do pls, those women out there who engage in petty trade are not silly. Theres actually no pride in being jobless and showing off expensive clothes and items especially if your parents are not wealthy enough to support your life-style. Whether you are a young school leaver, An undergraduate or even if you havent had the chance to study in any school. Just get a job and earn your own money. Permit me to say this- If you dont find it demeaning to spread your legs in the east and west direction just to get #5,000 from a man, then you shouldnt find any job too demeaning. *Go to pure water factories and other factories and apply as factory workers. * Make small chops at home and distribute to Northerners to sell for you. *There are a zillion small businesses in Lagos alone. Go and apply as sales-person. *Go and learn a trade. *Apply at mushroom schools to teach children. *Study well in school too. So you can get a good job upon graduation. * Take a walk round your community, you will surely get something to do. *Apply to learn a trade. You will not be arrested if you start buying your own recharge cards tongue and paying your own bills. Thank you. *N.B: If you find this post offensive, forgive me. There are a lot of women out there working for their upkeep and being responsible. And there a whole lot of women who think moving from one bar to the other, dressing to kill and getting money from men without lifting a finger to work is the norm. It is not normal. Pls, if you are in this category, go and find work to do. Even if your salary is not much, at least you can buy little things for yourself. How can you be proud of using high-end phones and expensive stuffs that your folks cant afford, yet you are jobless and without a source of income.. Pls, what sort of invisible business earn you so much money? As for me, I find extreme joy in knowing that I can take care of my needs when theres need to do so. And when men spend on me, they do so out of freewill and not cos I have to beg or pay in kind. Hard work doesnt kill smiley
Posted on: Thu, 15 Jan 2015 10:03:20 +0000
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