Second Chance “The good life is a process, not a state of being. It is a direction, not a destination.” ~Carl Rogers The world we live in is filled with people who are dear and near to our heart, we live by them assuming and believing that they will be a better part of our future and we trust them with everything we have , we blindly believe them thinking that they will be faithful and honest with us in every hardship of life and sometime we will be so emotionally dependent on them that we cannot imagine a world without them and when such an individual back stabs us do they deserve a second chance ? Is it worth giving another shot at the relationship which is already in its worst possible place, and is it even worth taking that risk? A relatively young chap contacted me on social networking site with his relationship problems and litigations. He had just ended a relationship and after hearing to all the ordeals he went through with his problematic, psychotic, law misuser wife, the guy still had some hopes left in him that she might change and things would be normal and his life would be back on track again, he was so optimistic that I didn’t want to bust his bubble of hope, yet I had to sing him the song of truth and reality. Once an abuser will always be an abuser, once a psycho will always be a psycho. When you walk out of a relationship you have to keep reminding yourself that why is that you left? It’s a tempting question to ask yourself, It’s also tempting to give it another shot with such an individual where you know there were plenty of good times. Its tempting to think about what could it be with someone you loved. And maybe there are those relationships that do deserve a second chance; but deciding if your past relationship is one of them is harder than it may seem. When we are going through such a sensitive situation of your lives, going back to something familiar will be too comforting, well let me put it this way, it would be an easy solution rather than working towards a whole new relationship, some of us may also call it optimistic well i think it isnt. You convince yourself that things will be different this time , you will be different , He /She will be different , Well let me warn you ,STOP ! And think and remember that going back is a chance that you are taking to go back and rewrite the history; its going back to exactly what you had before and just hoping for a different outcome. It’s just with a hope that you are going back and that too with a hopeless person who completely screwed your beautiful life and yet your mind tempts to give this individual another chance , How stupid can we get and be deceived by our own brain . So it high time that we write down that what was not right in the relationship , it’s time to quiz yourself that what exactly went wrong and make a self-assessment that was this individual right for me in the first place ? Is this dishonesty and betrayal be forgotten and forgiven? Or may be its time to decide that you want more than what you already had? May be its time to decide that you deserve the best than what worst you had? Or may be its time to decide that your energy is better spent on yourself and on your future rather than on an unworthy dishonest individual? Maybe its time to decide that it was an experience that you learnt that whom to let in to your life. Guys I really believe in second chances but having said that I just don’t think that everyone deserves a second chance. How can you believe a person whom you trusted with all your heart and he/she back stabs you in the worst possible way and give them another chance? Are they worth giving a chance and should we be foolish enough to believe such a disgusting individual again? And do we have to take that chance again? Well it’s totally not worth it. Guys its not worth dwelling in past and what happened so happened, lets learn from the past and come up with a new , beautiful and exciting future . . One Has to be so confident in life that we should dare the future to bring exactly what we want and what we deserve. Cheers , Harsha harshavardana.blogspot.in/2015/01/second-chance.html
Posted on: Tue, 20 Jan 2015 08:00:01 +0000
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