Sorry for the long bc so early in the morning- but please read & apply. Will do wonders for Ʊr life. The 90/10 Principle What is this 90/10 principle? 10% is made up of what happens to Ʊ in Ʊr daily life. 90% of life is decided by how Ʊ react. What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down, the plane arriving late throwing off our schedule. A driver may cut us off in traffic. Ending in a ditch because of icy roads in winter. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. Ʊ determine the other 90%.How? By Ʊr reaction. Ʊ cannot control a red light., but Ʊ can control ur reaction. Let’s use an example. Ʊ are eating breakfast with Ʊr family. Ʊr daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto Ʊr business shirt. Ʊ have no control over what just happened. What happens next will be determined by how Ʊ react.Ʊ swear. Ʊ scream disaster! Ʊ get distressed & harshly scold Ʊr daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, Ʊ turn to Ʊr spouse & criticise her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. Ʊ storm upstairs to change Ʊr shirt. Back downstairs, Ʊ find ur daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast & get ready for school. She misses the bus.Ʊ rush to the car & drive Ʊr daughter to school. Because Ʊ are late, you drive 50 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay & throwing $60 (traffic fine) away, Ʊ arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 30 minutes late, Ʊ find Ʊ forgot Ʊr briefcase. Your day has started terribly. As it continues, it seems to get worse & worse. Ʊ look forward to coming home but when Ʊ arrive you find a small wedge in Ʊr relationship with Ʊr spouse & daughter. Why? Because of how Ʊ reacted in the morning. Why did Ʊ have a bad day? A) Did the coffee cause it? B) Did Ʊr daughter cause it? C) Did the policeman cause it? D) Did Ʊ cause it? The answer is D. Ʊ had no control over what happened with the coffee. How Ʊ reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused Ʊr bad day. Here is what could have & should have happened. Coffee splashes over Ʊ. Ʊr daughter is about to cry. Ʊ gently tell her, “It’s ok, Ʊ just need to be more careful next time”. Grabbing a towel Ʊ dash upstairs & change into a new shirt, grab Ʊr briefcase, & Ʊ come back downstairs in time to look through the window & see Ʊr child getting on the bus. She turns around smiling & waves. Ʊ say goodbye to Ʊr spouse before u go to work. Ʊ arrive 5 minutes early & cheerfully greet Ʊr collegues & staff. Ʊr boss comments on how good a day Ʊ are having. Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended differently. Why? Because of how Ʊ reacted. Ʊ really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by Ʊr reaction. Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about Ʊ, don’t be a sponge. Let the comments roll like water off a duck’s back . Ʊ don’t have to let the negative comment affect Ʊ! React properly & it will not ruin Ʊr day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc. How do Ʊ react if someone cuts Ʊ off in traffic? Do Ʊ lose Ʊr temper? Pound on the steering wheel? Does Ʊr blood pressure skyrocket? Do Ʊ try & bump them? Why stress Ʊrself out if Ʊ arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the other bad drivers ruin Ʊr day? Ʊ are told Ʊ lost Ʊr job. Why lose sleep, get stressed, cranky & irritated? It will work out. Use Ʊr worrying; energy & time into finding another job. The plane is late – it is going to mangle Ʊr schedule for the day. Why take out Ʊr frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse. Now Ʊ know the 90/10 principle apply it & Ʊ will find that Ʊ have nothing to lose. Bad days follow bad days. Terrible things seem to be constantly happening. There is constant stress, lack of joy, & broken relationships. Worry consumes time. Anger breaks friendships & life seems dreary & is not enjoyed to the fullest. Friends are lost. Life is a trial & often seems cruel. Does this describe Ʊ ? If so, do not be discouraged. Ʊ can be different! Understand & apply the 90/10 principle. It will change Ʊr life.
Posted on: Sat, 14 Sep 2013 06:02:44 +0000
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