THE BOOK: NO MORE CONDEMNATION - Woman arise and be healed. By Patrick Enega. (...concluded from yesterday) Reacting to People and Situation Instead of Responding to them I have realised that a lot of women know how to say “yes” when they mean “no” and vice versa. They pretend to be happy when they are really sad. They put on a smile and laugh yet they are shedding tears in their heart. These are “coping skills” merely applied in order to be happy and to keep their relationship and marriage. Undoubtedly, it is a common knowledge and worthy of general acceptance that women are more relationship-conscious than men. A woman can bear with hurts, abuse and disappointments in her marriage and still be submissive to her husband. But a day comes when she would no longer be able to take more - because there is no more room - and she would start pouring out all the hurts that she had swallowed. These are cases of emotional overload, but overloaded people fail. Consequently, there will be outbursts of anger in the home. T.D Jakes said: “Most people end up exceeding the weight limit. Motivated by the desire to please, impress, or otherwise gain commendation, they take on too much and, in the end, fail to reach the heights of success or else crash because they ignored their limitations.” In order to maximize your life, you have to minimize your load. You must know your capacity. You must decide what you will and will not take on. You must determine what is worthy of your attention. Every situation that arises does not deserve your attention.” Overcoming Hurting Experiences of Yesterday Another issue we need to consider critically is the fact that our past experiences have a way of affecting and shaping our present and future either positively or negatively. What is the picture of your past like? What have you been through in life? Have you been able to let go or you are pretending as if nothing ever happened, while you are hurting and dying emotionally? Are you still being tortured and tormented by your past? Your past is like your shadow following you everywhere? What about the heartaches and disappointments of past relationships? Are you still hurting as a result of the rejection and abandonment you went through as a young lady either in your father’s or guardian’s house? Are you one of those broken hearts that strike back when someone touches that wounded part of their life, when reminded of the abuse of yesterday or the shadow you are running away from? Are there circumstances or challenges that come up in your life that trigger and resurrect your fear, pain, insecurity and depression that are associated with the ugly experiences of yesterday? These are deep and personal issues that you must take care of thoroughly or else they may hinder your joy in life. It is something worth shouting and testifying about, when the past has no hold on you again. It’s possible to take revenge unconsciously on your spouse because of the disappointment you got from the man you had wanted to marry or because of the maltreatment you got from your in-laws. It is all about the heart being submissive to the word of God and not situations. It is something worth shouting and testifying about, when the past has no hold on you again. The devil cannot be absolutely responsible for our crumbling and failing relationships. In addition, the unfriendly and hostile atmosphere in our homes and the moody cloud around us probably has something to do with the disposition of our heart than with anything else. We all know without any gainsaying that it takes two to tango, but it is my conviction that women determine the atmosphere in the homes more than the men. No one can deny the fact that a man can be angry with his wife and you would not feel it in the air, but if a woman is angry no matter how she tries to hide it, it would be felt in the kitchen, living room, bedroom and everywhere in the home. A heart that has not been healed of hurts, wounds, disappointments and rejections will likely react and fight when that wounded part of her is touched again especially by the same person that caused the initial hurt. Also, as a result of past experiences and unresolved issues in the hearts of some women, they react instead of responding to their husbands, in-laws and situations. They react to spouses, fiancés, friends, church members, pastors, colleagues and in-laws instead of calmly responding to issues or persons. This attitude is actually as a result of fear and past disappointment in people. A heart that has not been healed of hurts, wounds, disappointments and rejections will likely react and fight when that wounded part of her is touched again especially by the same person that caused the initial hurt. Women in this group can be very confrontational. They are easily irritated and confront almost everything they don’t agree with. Wounded animals strike out at those offering to help them because they are afraid of being hurt again. There is no doubt about it that there are some women who react out of their selfish and unrealistic interests. They want things to be done to satisfy them at all times. This is the Jezebel spirit. Now is the time to deal with and overcome whatever makes you reject the word of God; whatever makes you think you don’t have what it takes to do what God called you to do; whatever makes you look down on yourself and the grace of God upon your life. Now, I break the power of every rejection and whatever makes you feel rejected and I command you to be delivered from the spirit of rejection and its accompanying effects like fear, hatred, shame, inferiority complex, insecurity, etc, in Jesus’ name, Amen.
Posted on: Thu, 22 Aug 2013 06:08:57 +0000
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