The Gift Called Sorry Do you find it hard to apologize? Do you think saying sorry brings you down? Apologizing never has been easy, and it never will be. Admitting when youre wrong can be one of the most difficult things youll ever have to do. Sorry is hardest to say when it matters most.”― Ebehi Iyoha We tend to view apologies as a sign of weak character. Until a few years back, I saw an apology as a sign of great weakness, a form of humiliation, especially when I am partially right. Saying Sorry was a resounding No for me. But I have come a long way from that stubborn kid. “Never apologize, mister, it is a sign of weakness.” ― John Wayne The successful apology requires empathy and the security and strength to admit fault, failure, and weakness. Sorry may be a simple, single syllable word but it is possibly the most difficult to say. Apologies are rare because it is difficult to accept that one is wrong. And to do so publicly is even tougher. Failed apologies can strain relationships beyond repair or, worse, create life-long grudges and bitter vengeance. Sorry is a question that begs forgiveness, because the metronome of a good heart wont settle until things are set right and true - Craig Silvey Admitting when you are wrong and owning up to it is not only very courageous, but a sign of great personal strength! It takes a strong mind to know when you are wrong and when an apology is necessary. Apology is not necessarily concession, or an admission of error. It is an acknowledgment that the relationship is more important that the argument at hand. The person who apologizes when they are wrong demonstrates a great amount of strength of character than one who blames others or tries to find excuse out of the situation. It takes more guts to face the music than to sling away and sulk. Sorry is a lot of things. Its a hole refilled. A debt repaid. Sorry is the wake of misdeed. Its the crippling ripple of consequence. “If you made your girl say sorry, you did not win a fight. You won a girl who really loves you.” ― Scratchy Singh When apologizing, be sincere about it. Let go of all pride. As you will know that pride form the core of mans weakness. So be humble. Being composed also helps in showing the strength of your character. Dont get too emotional. Tears dont win forgiveness; sincerity does. Dont use the apology as an opportunity to point out what the other person did wrong. If you go about it that way, youre missing the point entirely. And it will just make the other person even angrier. “Sorry cannot change the past but can change the future.” ― Sladjana Savić Even the angriest person will soften if you make a thoughtful case, so swallow your pride and get to it. It takes strength to say Im Sorry
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